This was a tough week coming to terms with my FMIL’s health. She’s been fighting the good fight with Cancer. She decided to forego the transplant and any further Chemotherapy as the Chemo did a number on her health and wellness and did not yield the results to get her numbers where they needed to be in order to be eligible for a transplant. Basically she is going back on a drug therapy which will hopefully maintain her levels as they are for however long. We’re just unsure how long that could be at this point. We were planning to Elope early October with the expectation she would finish Chemo and have the transplant in August, and have time to recover until October. Now in her current state we are so unsure. Our officiant offered to marry us even sooner if we wanted. I suggested doing it early to FFIL and he said he thinks October’s a good time as it’s a nice goal for FMIL to get some strengths, which I understand. But as we left yesterday she said some things that just felt like her last good-byes so IDK what to do. We’re willing and able to do it sooner, and I’m just feeling torn about waiting to see what happens. What if she gets worse, but also what if she can get better in terms of wellness and having more strength and energy than she does now?
What would you do?
