I am looking for some advice. My wedding isn't until October and I am already having problems with my FMIL. A little back story, she's a very controlling person and overbearing. She did everything for my FH growing up to where when I met him he didn't even know that he could do his own laundry or cut on a stove because she always did it for him. I've helped him a lot with his confidence and he's starting to step out into his own but she hates me for that. So I knew going into this and that trying to plan a wedding around her was going to be extremely difficult. But, she's since taken over my guest list inviting people who my FH and I have never met and when I tell her that we don't have room in our venue for them and we don't even know them she goes off the deep end saying that too bad they have already been invited (I haven't sent out invitations yet). If we don't invite them when we do sent out invitations (she's already booked rooms for them!) then she'll probably be super spiteful and just not show up to our wedding at all which would really hurt my FH. She's not paying for the wedding in anyway. I am fronting all the costs. FH and I wanted a very small wedding with just our close families and maybe 3 friends. We don't have any bridesmaids or groomsmen and now it's turned into this giant thing because she keeps telling people about it!! I've gone to her multiple times asking her to stop inviting people. We don't have room or the money to serve these extra people that we don't want and she just won't. I've gone to her telling her that she's not respecting either of our wishes and that doesn't phase her either because she pulls out the well, it's my family and they are coming anyways. I feel like the wedding has turned into a "look what I can do" party for her. And she's not even planning it or paying for it. I made the mistake of telling her our theme of a haunted magical garden and now she's been making fun of me for having it in October with potion bottles claiming she's going to show up in witch costume! We aren't even getting married on Halloween...I don't know what to do to stop this train wreck!
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