How should i deal with this?

My coworker is eloping simply with just him and his fiance and the officiant and a photographer to capture the moment. And then they'll go have a dinner with their families after or some other time.
In other words, it sounds like things would be much simpler and happier for you if it was just you guys getting married to each other without the frills of your family on your back. At the end of the day it's about you two joining together anyway. Families are there to support and celebrate but sometimes they can be overwhelming.
Go with what's best for you.

This is so stressful and way too many problematic people. I would pick a place you & your fiancé love & elope. I’d be too angry at MIL, dad, and a few others to go through the stress and budget a wedding again. Consider a vow renewal in a few years—take back control and plan what you want then.

This is the third time you've posted about this, and your story changes each time. Now you're closer to your original post. You keep framing this as something that your MIL did to you; it isn't. All she did is not tell you that the venue owners were about to start renovations. You still had the option of using the free venue she arranged for you. You chose not to - according to your first post - because you were concerned primarily with the aesthetics since the ceiling tiles had been removed, and also with possible safety issues since you didn't know how far along the renovations might be in a month and a half. Frankly, you seem to me to be obsessed with blaming your FMIL and keep changing the story to suit the narrative that she's to blame for ruining your wedding, no matter what bumps come up in your planning. You said previously that you were only losing about $300 in deposits by cancelling the big wedding, by the way.

You claimed in your first post that you had found the perfect little elopement venue in the city and that eloping was what you and your FI had wanted to do all along. In your second post you said you had dreamed of a big wedding your whole life. Now you're doing a park with only 15 guests allowed? If that's really the plan, you need to be careful in putting together your guest list, because you should not be splitting up couples. People are right to be upset at their husbands/wives/partners not being invited. Don't invite your father if you're not willing to invite his wife. Having a small wedding isn't an excuse for doing something rude like splitting up a couple.

As Vicky said- THREE TIMES you posted this and they're all contradictory and changing. Honestly, I'm not sure what the point is other than maybe wanting everyone would be on your side and when they aren't you just reframe and repost and hoped no one would notice? I don't know.

I say do what makes you happy. Dont worry about pleasing anyone else besides you and your partner. This is your time. Invite who u want there & if they can make it then great.

I just read all the previous posts. My goodness, they're all different!
I agree with a response from a PP post. The posts seem to be an attempt at attention grabbing for some reason.
A wedding whether large or small should never be planned without adequate funds. Being a free that the family is not helping financially is not a mature way to look at things.
You and your FH are the ones getting married.
If your on such a tight budget, either elope or have a civil ceremony. Either way you're married.
But in all honesty, your posts don't ring true with the contradictory statements.
I don't want to be rude, but maybe you should think this over and put marriage on the back burner.

View Quoted Comment I completely agree with this. Also, looking at your previous posts, it looks like there is some additional bad-blood between you and your FMIL that existed well before wedding planning. I suggest really working on developing a better relationship there. Maybe consider some family counseling.

Also, do not split up your dad and his wife. As harsh as this sounds, it's downright cruel not to invite significant others to a wedding. Unless there are extreme reasons why you can never associate with that woman again (i.e. a restraining order, an established no-contact with her, murder, etc...), she should be on the guest list or neither of them are.

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Now, I want to read the other posts. I started to feel badly for her but now.. idk. Either way, she should do whatever her heart desires.

I do think your intended guests' families (spouses, kids, etc.) should be included. I wouldn't want to attend a wedding where mine weren't. And since you don't have the funds to do a larger wedding, then I think y'all might be better off eloping. Like real eloping. Just you and FH run off together, elope, and enjoy a honeymoon. Maybe y'all can have a casual celebratory party when you return with your family. That would remove your family drama from the equation. If they have anything to say about it, ask them to respect your decision or provide money to pay for something else. Also, sorry your MIL did that, that truly does suck.

Elope! Cut out all the drama everyone around you guys is creating. Make it special, just you two. I would stop talking to any family members about the wedding at all. Just say that you two are making decisions together and you will let them know when the time comes. You can always have a reception later on after you are married. My cousin did this and it was fantastic.

Agree with PP, I thought this story seemed familiar.

That being said, you want to be married right? Elope, courthouse, justice of the peace, whatever. Get married and worry about planning a reception for when the venue is ready.

Just elope no matter what the story is. You clearly want to, so just do it. Have a vow renewal later if you want a wedding experience.