Jessica
Just Said Yes June 2022

How Short is too short of a ceremony!?

Jessica, on October 6, 2021 at 3:55 PM Posted in Wedding Ceremony 0 16
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Hey My Lovelies,

My fiancé and I are both very introverted and we have a big wedding. We both do not want a long ceremony, so we were not thinking of doing anything like sand, candle lighting, readings, etc. I have a rough draft of our ceremony already written out. We will most likely have our Officiant add a few of his own words (as it is my fiancé's Uncle). With that being said, with what we already have in writing I read through it and timed it it came out at around 6 minutes. But that does not include us reading our written vows to each other, or what Officiant wants to say, or anyone walking down the aisle. Just what is being said at the ceremony. Does this sound like its too short? I feel like it should be around 15ish, possibly 20 minutes with everyone walking down & then back off aisle. I just feel like the longer we are up there the more weird we will get (haha, yes weird or awkward!) Please and advice would be so gratefully appreciated!

Thank You,

Jes & Trish

16 Comments

Latest activity by Emilia, on October 15, 2021 at 10:51 AM
  • Rebelle Fleur
    Rockstar July 2021
    Rebelle Fleur ·
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    That’s perfectly fine. I told my officiant I wanted it to be 10-15 minutes max. As I personally do not like a long ceremony.
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  • Lisa
    Rockstar July 2022
    Lisa ·
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    I think that's totally a fine length for a ceremony! As long as you have all the required parts of the ceremony included, it can be as long or as short as you want.
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  • Rabreena
    Devoted October 2021
    Rabreena ·
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    Typically a ceremony can be 15-20 minutes but if you two think that is too long then absolutely go with a shorter ceremony. I think once you include the readings of both your vows to each other that it might be about 10 minutes. Do what makes you two happy and comfortable with.

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  • T
    Expert May 2010
    Theresa ·
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    As a guest, there is no such thing as "too short" of a ceremony. Smiley smile

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  • Stephanie
    Dedicated October 2021
    Stephanie ·
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    My wedding ceremony was a whopping 8 minutes (the officiants wife timed it). Guests raved about how it was short and sweet.
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  • Alejandra
    Super March 2019
    Alejandra ·
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    My ceremony was about 15 minutes long, including our vows that we each wrote ourselves. We only did a rose ceremony for our mothers and nothing else. It was quick and sweet. I didn't want to be standing around for too long wearing heels so I made sure it was everything we wanted and not long at all. Cocktail hour began and the party was on!

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  • Cyndy
    Rockstar May 2019
    Cyndy ·
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    I think that’s perfect! So what makes you happy and don’t worry about others.
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  • M
    Savvy November 2021
    Madison ·
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    Once you actually have the ceremony it might take a little longer but short and sweet is perfect.
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  • K
    Devoted February 2022
    Kristie ·
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    From the moment I hit the alter our ceremony won't be longer than 30 minutes.
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  • Monica
    Devoted August 2021
    Monica ·
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    Our first ceremony was just about 8 minutes and it was great! The second one (in a church, more traditional) was around 25. If you want a short ceremony go for it! It's your day!
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  • Griswold
    May 2019
    Griswold ·
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    You can always go the Abe Vigoda Joe Versus The Volcano route:

    Waponi Chief : Do you want to marry him?

    Patricia : Yes.

    Waponi Chief : Do you want to marry her?

    Joe Banks : Yes.

    Waponi Chief : Good. You're married.

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  • Kris
    Expert July 2021
    Kris ·
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    With the processional and the recessional, ours was 15 mins. We did our own vows.

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  • E
    Super July 2023
    Eniale ·
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    This right here.

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  • E
    Super July 2023
    Eniale ·
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    When I worked with my husband as a videographer, we had a wedding ceremony that was 7 minutes, start to finish. Walking down the aisle and all. No such thing as too short.

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  • Samantha
    Dedicated August 2022
    Samantha ·
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    I was raised Methodist and typically if you're not out of the sanctuary in 20 minutes you did something wrong 😂 (at least at my home church!)

    My FH and I are doing handwritten vows followed by the typical repeat after me section. We're shooting for like...15 minutes including the processional.

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  • Emilia
    Expert June 2019
    Emilia ·
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    Hi ! I think 20 minutes is really OK. Here in France we have 10-15 minutes ceremonies in the city hall (obligatory) and the brides are obsessed with the fact that it's to short... I don't really know why... so then they add another ceremony, which takes around 40 minutes with speeches, rituals, vows, etc etc... well, their choice ;-)

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