How old is too old to be a ring bearer?

My nephew is 9, and he is thrilled to be our ring bearer! He doesn't see it as a baby job at all, but sees it as a big responsibility. I agree with what many have said, ask him if he would like to do it.

My son will be almost 9 and he is thrilled to be the ring bearer at our wedding.

My FG is going to be 6. I asked her if she wanted to be in the wedding even at her young age because I didn't want to make her do something she didn't want to do just for a photo op. She was excited about getting to pick out a pretty dress, but asked if she didn't actually have to throw flowers (we settled on a flower crown & matching pomander after I showed her photos).

I'd ask your little cousin. 5th grade is that borderline age where kids start to find everything super awkward and embarrassing. Maybe if he feels weird about the "ring bearer" title connotation being too juvenile with the whole pillow thing, then couch it as "ring security" or ask him to sit with the rings and then stand/walk up to the altar with them when the officiant asks for them.

We each have a nephew, mine will be 8 and his will be 3 on our wedding day...I gave my nephew a "title" of Senior Ring Bearer and he LOVES it. He tells everyone his full "title" and says he has to help the 3 y/o do a good job. I do not think 10 is too old personally especially if he is important to you and you want him to play a role. Allow him to carry the actual rings and maybe pass it up to the best man...it might make it even more special to him.

I agree with PPs who have said to speak with the 10 year old about whether he thinks he's too old. If he does, maybe he's like to be a Jr. Groomsman? Our (his) nephew was in our wedding as a JrGM at the age of 9, because when we spoke to him about being in the wedding he said he didn't want a "baby" job. We didn't have a FG or RB, the BM held the rings until the officiant asked for them (bridesmaids dresses didn't have pockets lol)

Have them both and the older boy can help keep the younger one on track