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How much should you cover for your braldsmaids?

Sarah, on September 5, 2020 at 11:07 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 13
Hi everyone,


I will have a destination wedding next year in Miami. I just feel bad if all three of my bridesmaids need to spend money on flight, hotel, dress, make up and hair. So I would like to cover some of their expenses.
What do you think it’s essential for them? Right now I feel like I should pay for their hair and make up and maybe their dresses if I can find a good deal.
I won’t have a bridal shower and a bachelorette. So they don’t have anything extra to worry about. I will also do a bridesmaids proposal in a couple months. I will probably need to cover some of the close relatives’ hair and make up since people will be traveling for my wedding. When I did the math it’s very expensive when they added up. What do you think it’s essential for them to have/what I should cover/and how do I make my guests feel that I care about them?

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Latest activity by Sarah, on September 6, 2020 at 7:02 PM
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    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    Dude that sounds totally plenty what you’re doing already
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  • Lisa
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    Lisa ·
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    I think what you're already planning on covering sounds super generous!
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    Savvy November 2021
    Sarah ·
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    Yes, it’s a lot. But the hotel and flight will be $500 for them. I don’t want to make them spend more money. idk I don’t feel right about it. Also it’s a small and intimate wedding. I want them to be there.
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  • Chrysta
    Master November 2022
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    I completely understand what you’re saying! We are having a destination wedding as well, and its been important for me to take good care of our wedding party and guests. I am also paying for hair, makeup and dress, and will be getting them thank you gifts as well. I think it’s a nice way of thanking them for going the extra mile for you (literally lol) and letting them know that you appreciate them.
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    Sarah ·
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    Thank you Chrysta! First, I really want my bridesmaids to be there. Second, I feel like I would get a bit upset if I were the bridesmaid bc clearly the bride isn’t very considerate when she expects bridesmaids to spend so much on the wedding.
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  • mrswinteriscoming
    VIP December 2021
    mrswinteriscoming ·
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    Destination weddings are expensive, as you’re summarized, there are quite a few expenses that guests need to cover to attend.
    If your friends weren’t in the bridal party, they would still need to pay for flights and accommodation to attend. On that basis, I think covering hair and makeup is the bare minimum (personally I think brides should cover this anyway, if they want professional makeup) and paying for their dresses would also be quite considerate. It’s not a must but I’m sure they’d be very appreciate of it Smiley smile
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  • Yasmine
    Master October 2020
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    I think that what you suggested paying for is enough!
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    Sarah ·
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    Thank you!
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    Sarah ·
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    Got it! Thank you!
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  • Natalie
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    IMO you should either cover the hair and makeup, or make it optional...if they have the money they can treat themselves to it, but if they are struggling they can do their own hair and makeup. I would also try to be considerate about what dress you pick...don't got for a dress that costs 300 dollars or something.

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  • Natalie
    Devoted January 2022
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    Also if you're struggling with the expenses adding up, drop the proposal boxes! They are a new trend, the boxes are usually full of things that the bridesmaids don't want or need...you're better off proposing with a heartfelt handwritten letter!

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  • Hanna
    VIP June 2019
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    My wedding was not a destination wedding, but my bridesmaids all lived in different states and had to fly in and stay at a hotel. I paid for all of their hair and makeup (I was not requiring them to have it done professionally but I simply chose to pay). Everybody does things differently, but in my social circle it's customary for the bride the pay for the their bridesmaids' hair and makeup. I also got them each a silk pajama set to wear while getting ready, as well as a nice piece of jewelry for each girl (the jewelry was the 'real' gift, because let's face it, we all know that the pajama sets were really for the getting ready photos.) I think what you're doing sounds like more than enough!

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    Thank you Natalie! Yeah I’m planning to pick a bridesmaid dress style that’s under $100. Probably from Lulus.
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