How much should I give?

I guess I should add the wedding I have attended were very laid back and casual but this one is very formal..

Following not been to any weddings here

FH and I gave $50 to both his brother and his sister at their weddings.

It depends.. Fh and I gave 200 total to one couple (work friend) and 400 I believe to one of his close friends... I've only been to those two so I'm not really sure what the general rule is.

Do they have a registry? I'd take a peek at it and average the price of what they're asking for, and generally get an idea of how much other people are spending.

When I was single I always gave $100, but when I have taken a date I give between 150/200 depending on the venue.

What is your relationship to the couple getting married?

I think this is a really personal question and no one can give you a definite answer because we don't know your relationship with the person or your financial situation. If you just want an idea of what others have given, I've given$150 to a second cousin and plan to give about $250 to a good friend for her wedding in September.

It's my FH's sister

Give what your are able, and give from the heart. There is no "right" answer, but generosity is always in good taste.

It is hard to answer. At my wedding I received cash gifts from guests of $50 up to $500!

If it was my sister, I would give more... but only you can really decide It also depends on your personal finances and what you guys usually do.

I usually give gifts off the registry, and give more expensive gifts based on how close I am to the couple (or to the half of the couple that I know). The lowest I've gone is $50 total ($25 shower gift and $25 wedding present). But again, I'd base the amount on your relationship with them.

I heard the rule of thumb is to pay for your plate, I am in Chicago and usually give about $100 for myself and an additional $100 if I bring a date, which is probably a low per plate cost for a Chicago wedding. Sometimes I give a little more if I am close to the couple or can afford to.

There are many factors in addition to per plate cost to consider, particularly whether you have to travel for the wedding and what other events you have participated in. Ultimately give what you can afford. You can also buy something off their registry like some of the other ladies suggested, where you do not have to worry as much about a certain dollar amount (I personally love using the coupons available at both Macy's and Bed Bath and Beyond!).

I believe it really depends on how close you are. My amounts have really varied depending on my relationship with them. I would give more to close family & friends then I would to a co-worker.

I usually give around $100

I live in the land of boxed gifts (the south), so cash isn't as normal here. I was a BM in a wedding for a good friend last fall that really wanted cash. They still had a small registry, but if anyone asked the bridal party or her mom if she wanted something especially, we passed along that they were registered at xxx and were also saving for a bedroom set and "really wanted to make that a priority right now". She said almost all cash gifts were under $100, which didn't cover their plate (in private, just to me of course). If I go to a wedding, I always bring a boxed gift. But if I knew the couple really wanted cash for something...I'd probably bring $100-200 depending on how close I was to them.

I love giving gifts so I usually look for something medium priced on their registry. If I am close to them I get them one of their big things.

Here is about 200 a couple.

I think a lot of factors go into this: relationship to bride/groom, how financially stable you are and where you are located. Give what you can. If you have a range of what you would be willing to give, I'd go toward the high end since it's for family.

We live in Chicago and FH and I both have good jobs. We give 200-300 now. I used to give 100 back in the day when I was single and starting out in my career.