My wedding is next year, but I'm already thinking of bridesmaid's outfits and accessories. I'm not sure how much say I should get in their appearance. I've been a bridesmaid in weddings where all I had to do was buy a dress in a specific color, and I've been a bridesmaid in weddings where the bride chose shoes, nail colors, jewelry and insisted on spray tans or hair extensions, and no one seemed to complain. I've read that all that the bride gets a say in is the dress, but I know people, who think it is okay for a bride to ask their bridesmaids to lose weight.
What do I get a say in, when it comes to my bridesmaid's appearances? I'm certainly not going to ask anyone to lose weight. I do have a vision in mind for how I want them to look, but I don't want to come off as too demanding and annoying. Is there like a proper rule on what I can and can't dictate? My bridesmaids will pay for the dresses but for now I'm planning on paying for anything else.