How much is too much- Bachelorette party

First of all, you shouldn't be involved in the planning! Let your MOH/Bridal party take care of it for you.

Second, it depends on what everyone is comfortable paying. MOH, or whoever is planning it should send a message to all guests asking what they are comfortable spending and keep it at that.

$120-$240 seems fair to me, especially if all you are doing is just the spa! No drinks, dinner, hotels etc.. But once again it all depends on everyone else and what they can afford. One person's budget may not be the same as someone else

Yeah, definitely stay out of it.

Personally I do not think this is too much at all. Being in a wedding is expensive and your party should know they are going to spend money when they accept. Many people do destinatoin bachlortette parties over several nights! If this is what you want then you should be able to have this, especially is they have adequate time to save up in advance too.

I agree with Chelsea

I don't think it's your call to make - your MOH needs to email all the BP involved and ask them what they think. I'm sure they can all choose their own package, since many of those services are private. For someone on a budget, they can just do mani/pedi and lunch with wine, for those who can splurge, they full package. It would be up to them, IMO.

Lunch, wine, a manicure, pedicure, facial, AND massage is only $120-$240??? That's insanely cheap for that many spa services!

But - that doesn't mean it's the right price for your group! I'd have your MOH ask the other bridesmaids and bach party attendees what they are comfortable spending and plan the day around that. Could people pick and choose how many services they want at a cheaper price?

I would love that if i was a bm. Something I would personally enjoy and in line with what I've spent for other Bach parties. But I think you should stay out of the planning and let them desire that

If your bridal party thinks it's too much, it's too much.

I think your MOH should plan a party that works best for the budgets of your guests. She should talk to everyone individually (no group text) and see what their budget is if they would be attending. Then she can work with the lowest budget offered. I found out that my MOH planned on dong a weekend getaway bachelorette party for me without consulting any other of my bridesmaids for their budgets. They were definitely upset as most of them could not attend due to budgets. I had to tell her that we needed something more low key as it was more important to me that my friends be there then it was to only have a couple there and spend a lot of money doing a destination party.

That seems very fair to me.

My friend is getting married 6 weeks before me and she is having a WEEK LONG bachelorette event. I am only going for a short time but hotel alone is $300 for 2 nights.

That seems really cheap and like a good deal to me. The 2 bachelorettes I've been to were $1000 or so. I didn't think that either was particularly expensive. FH's bachelor party will be $3000 pp. So I guess it's all subjective. But I'd let your girls work this out among themselves. Either they can plan something that will meet the minimum budget or they can do the spa activity and people will opt out.

Stay out of the planning. If your MOH is telling you that "might" be too high, I would guess someone in your BP already expressed displeasure at the cost.

I personally do think that's a bit high, because I would not want to spend my day at a spa. FH and I are in a high income bracket, but I still hate to waste money. It would feel like a waste and I would resent feeling obligated. Let your MOH plan a night out or something more agreeable to the entire BP. You can still do a spa day with a couple of like minded friends some other time.

I think it's a fair price.

Your MOH should contact each member of the BP that will be attending one on one, not as a group, to ask what they're comfortable spending. That's the budget for the whole event. You should stay out of the planning of your party. I think it's one thing if the MOH asks what you'd like to do, and you say something like "a spa day" or "dinner with friends", but once you start choosing the spa, packages, pricing etc. you are too involved. Everyone's budget is different & MOH should be responsible for figuring that out from everyone else in a polite way.

That seems like a really good price for all of that! I would have much rather spent my money on that than what I did the last time I was a BM (got a hotel, went to dinner, and then bar hopping). If it's too expensive for some of the girls, just go with a smaller package

The thing is, no matter what we think, it's irrelevant. We're not the ones forking over the cash. One person may find $120 a great price. Another might find it to be a struggle. We don't get to judge the finances of others. If your MOH already expressed concerns, I would take the hint and allow her to arrange whatever she and your other bridesmaids are comfortable spending.

Lyla a $3000 bach party? I can't even imagine spending that much on someone's pre-wedding party.

A week long bachelorette event? I suppose that works in some circles, but that would be a hard pass for me even if I had the money and the time off.

First of all, someone should offer to plan this for you. Whoever is hosting could ask you for some input on what you'd like to do, but that's it. Your host should reach out to each attendee to see what her budget is. Personally, I wouldn't spend that much for a day, and if your bridesmaids are telling you it's kinda pricey, I'd think twice about it.

You should, honestly stay out of it. The line in the sand is what your BP can/are willing to afford.

There is no way on this planet that I'd spend 1000.00 on anyone's pre wedding party.

Agree with all the PPs. I've been to bachelorette parties that cost me $100 and I've been to some that have cost closer to $1000. It all depends on the consensus of the group and what they want to do . Have your MOH ask the group what their budgets are and take it from there. Some people are willing to spend because they see it as an excuse to take a vacation/day out/day to themselves.