How much has your fiancé(e) helped with wedding planning?

I suppose a 5 or 6? My FH has been willing to help where lead but doesn't really have the time to do a lot. My job allows me to call & email vendors and such but his does not. Plus, he's handling everything associated with buying our first home (literally mid contract right now with inspection scheduled this weekend).

If i narrow things down to 2 or 3 options or give him a specific task, he is all about it. He found and booked our cabin rental for the honeymoon, helped pick out the venue and gave me a decent budget (he's paying for everything). he's had input on most things but generally doesnt care much about the decore.

He's gone to our vendor meet ups and listened to me talk about what I've planned, but that's about it. I have a lot more free time at work than he does, so I try not to bug him with it anyways.

So far we are 50/50, but that will likely change soon, but its ok. He is contributing a little more financially than I am though.

I'd have to say maybe about a 4. He had no choice for the guest list and his attire lol. He helped with the layout of our RSVPs and he's helping with choosing envelopes (we're getting samples of colored ones with white ink print). We have a couple taste testing appts next month and I know he's going to be a big help on that one We still have some things to go over so I won't be surprised if he actually speaks up on something else down the line. I'm actually hoping for it so we'll see.

I'd say he's a 6/10. If I specifically ask him to do something he's more than happy to help, he's had a few ideas (not very good ones lol), he's 3d printed stuff for the wedding, he tries to help me find solutions for problems I vent about while planning. He's just not good at taking the lead or being proactive on anything.

10/10 .. it's been such an easy process because he's been super helpful

6? He's been on all our venue tours because I need to keep myself grounded and not be spontaneous when making decisions. He has helped by talking about pros and cons to places, giving his opinion on colors for the wedding and reminding me about budget. But I do most of the talking when it comes to figuring out vendors such as djs, photography, officiant, etc.

A 2. I didn’t want a wedding but he insisted it was super important to him. He put in some ideas he wanted like fall, Sunday, BBQ, a DJ, a chocolate groom’s cake, beer at the firepit after the rehearsal dinner. I’ve done all the research, signed the contracts, put down deposits, had to nag him about deposits he promised to pay or to look at options I emailed him. He complained about looking at venues but did have fun when we went there. He didn’t get his side’s addresses til after most of the invites already went out. I’m irritated, exhausted, and broke. Sometimes I wish I had said if you want a wedding then you’re in charge of it, but if I made him plan everything it would have been a disaster. He didn’t even do the things he insisted he would take care of like catering, DJ, and the groomsmen tuxes. Now I have to spend the next three weeks nagging him about final payments. I’m paying a lot of them but he still has some big ones he’s in charge of. He says he doesn’t mind but his sighs say otherwise 😐. Ok rant over.

I don't know ahahah. I want to say six but then I also want to say much lower aha

When we were planning a local wedding, he was a 3-4. Now that we decided to get married sooner in Las Vegas, he’s a 8-9. He found flights, researched chapels and planned a tour to the Grand Canyon. I love it to see him so involved and excited.

I say 5. I have to be super specific about what I want him to do and when it needs to be done by

I'll say a 7 or 8. I've done most of the research and planning, but he wants to know about everything I'm doing to make sure he has a say in what's happening. He would do more, but the poor guy works 65 hours or more a week. So I don't want to bombard him with a wedding when he gets home.

Hmm 8 or 9? Granted I'm still doing most research and things but whenever I need his help or input he steps up 💙 he paid for engagement pics, the catering deposits, came on venue tours, met the photographer and caterer. Asked all his groomsmen and already told them all what to wear. I'm super blessed to have him 💙 and he puts up with the millions of pictures of diy projects I'm doing that I send to him.

Are we rating based on involvement or how much we'd like to see them involved? My FH has been involved about 8/10 but as far as how I feel about it it's 10/10! I am just blown away and beyond excited for how much he has cared and done for our wedding. He was right by my side when we chose the venue, he took complete responsibility for the caterer, and he is coming with me tonight when we go to pick up some decor. And everything he does he does with both of our opinions/desires in mind. I am thrilled.

My wife was probably a 5. She was helpful when asked, but never took the planning upon herself.

FH is probably a 6. I like that...he has opinions about things and wants to talk it out/plan it out but then I get to go do my thing and take over from there lol. Perfect for us honestly.

He’s been great! Not proactive but will happily do anything planning related that I ask him to

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I just want you to know you're not alone. My guy said we should do a wedding and not elope but hasn't put any effort in. At least I knew this would happen, it wasn't a surprise. Hang in there!

Around a 5. He’s been great about going and meeting with vendors and giving opinions when I ask for them, but most of the time he sticks with the “whatever you want” approach which I don’t mind at all 😊.

I would give him a solid 4 but it is a good 4! To be honest I'm ok with him not helping as much lol He did pay! i would just order and then be like this is what i spent. He's OK with whatever decision I make and I would just ask if something looks good together and he would tell me.