I only had an MOH and I didn't spend any money per say. We have exchanged recipes for years through the mail so I took all of the recipes out them in a recipe card maker online and printed them out, I organized them in a photo album by section and then wrote comments by each one. I interspersed photos of us as well. She loved it - for her it is much more about time and effort than money spent. Depending on who you are asking, they might be the same way?
It really depends on your budget...I don't think there should be a 'minimum'. We waited on sales & spent no more than $50 for each person in the WP. I also wrote a personal note for each in the BP.
Some couples would find that too much, other would think it's not enough...it doesn't matter what strangers think...just gift them something they would like & is within your budget.
I only have a MOH. I'm purchasing her dress, paying for her accessories and possibly hair (haven't decided if we will hire someone or do it ourselves). I'm also going to make her a gift basket for around $50-100. If it's in the budget I'll also cover her hotel room for the night.
It is important to me to treat my MOH well. She wouldn't need to spend this money if I hadn't decided to marry so I'm making sure she isn't out any money.
Also, just keep in mind that jewelry to wear day of, getting ready outfits, hair/makeup (if you are requiring it), etc. are not gifts. It is recommended to shop for them like it is their birthday.
We are having a very small wedding on a tight budget so we were mindful of how many people we could ask and still afford to buy them something nice, so we are doing $30 on each of them at least but if we find extra money in the budget we will likely put it towards their gifts. We are also doing everything we can to make sure that they won't be spending a penny more than $100 total on themselves to be part of the wedding. It all depends on what you can afford in your budget and how much they are spending.
That's basically what we did too! We bought the MOH and Best Man suits, and my bridesmaid's dress. We also budgeted to contribute to our bachelorette and bachelor parties and the bridal shower. They are covering their own shoes and any accessories, hair and makeup, and other extras they might want (like special robes or getting-ready extras beyond what I'm providing). We are young, and our bridal party is all working either part-time jobs, just starting a career, or still a student. FH and I waited until we were financially ready enough to not go into debt to get married, and it was important that we were able to help them out so they could be with us on our day. What is it, an article was going around saying the average bridesmaid shells out like $1600 to be a "typical" bridesmaid?? The least I can do is cover a nice suit that they can wear for interviews or other weddings and events. We are going out of our way for MOH because he and his family have helped with SO much this entire engagement.
All that said, typically a wedding gift for the bridal party members is an accessory or something they can wear on the wedding day and after. I would say the average price is $50-100 for something you know they'll use (like a spa or makeup set if she likes those most, or a shaving set for a man who loves grooming...but nice ones, not just a $10 kit of knock-offs from Ross or the Christmas section of Walmart). Look at your budget and what you can afford. Get them gifts they can use and love in the future, not just a bridesmaid robe they'll use for a couple pictures and never again, or just hair and makeup the day of. You know your bridal party better than any of us, so do what you want for them! Sometimes even treating them to a really nice dinner is enough!
I also would say not to necessarily look at what they're spending on you like a few people recommend. Get them a gift because you love them, not because they spent $500 so you should spend the same or some weird percent of what they spent. There's no math equation to it. Do what you feel is right to thank them for helping you and being your closest friends!
@muriel Ohhhh I see what you mean! Yes, some brides do expect the bridesmaids to spend a lot of money on them as well. I saw a few people in other posts suggest specific percentages as well. ("If their dress is $250 and their hair and makeup is $100 and they each spent $150 on the parties, take 15% of it and that's what you spend.") I havent seen anyone yet post asking for cheap gifts for the wedding party, but I haven't been around here too long either. That's why I said what I did.
I do completely agree that brides should not just get cheap gifts just because they chose to have many bridesmaids, plus had them spend hundreds of dollars each. That was their choice, and it should ALWAYS be worked into the budget before a bride asks 15 people to be in the bridal party and spend hundreds each. Either cut it down or cut something from your budget. They aren't servants and they are not "free work," they're your friends and they should be treated as such with gifts that are nice, not just running to Wal-Mart and buying a bunch of cheap perfume kits because you can't afford to get something they really deserve.
I do apologize if I came across rude in my statement, friends! Overall, this is something you look at your own budget to decide.
I miraculously survived to 41 only being a bridesmaid once. And that friend got us (9 maids) a bunch of crap--so I highly suggest not doing that. I spent a ton on a dress, shoes, taking her to a spa, travel, a wedding gift, and mind you, I didn't expect a gift, but something personal would have been nice. But we got matching accessories for the wedding (a clutch and shawl)--which I'm sure she thought "they can use again" but I didn't--perfume that I didn't wear, and a few doo dads like a keychain etc that had her wedding date engraved on it. To be, thought counts more than cost.