How Much Did You Spend on your Wedding?

Have you checked out this site? http://www.costofwedding.com/

It's helpful but keep in mind you can always spend less but cutting out stuff that's not impt to you.

I agree with Meghan- you could ask about a specific vendor, using the reasoning that you want to make sure you budget enough/don't overspend, etc. Cew2 also worded it well. I would NEVER ask a recent bride how much they spent, even a good friend, as money is a very personal topic. To me, that would be too much like asking someone's salary.

As for our budget, I don't feel like dealing with a catty reply from a bride who does not understand the area's high cost of living (this inflates the costs of NY weddings proportionately), our solid financials, and the fact we can spend this amount W/O going into debt. Moreover, it's our choice to do so! When coworkers ask me, and I reply with some round-about answer, "Would you believe the average wedding is $27,000! And NY is so much more expensive than other cities! Sigh." It either gets the point across or misdirects the

M.

I don't think it's taboo to ask but it's good if you ask it in a way that's not rude or being nosy. I remember asking my roomie's wife how much they spent on their wedding (last year April or May in the Bay Area) and I said I wanted to know what the average was and what it costs these days to have a wedding as nice as hers in our area. Her and her hubby spent $45-50k for everything. I believe her photog alone was about $8k or so.

Personally, I don't mind telling people my overall budget, but it REALLY bugs me when they are like "Oh, how much did that cost?" I don't plan on telling anyone how much my dress cost, because I don't feel it's any of their business. I know MANY people say they can't believe this person spent this much on this, or this person on this, and I feel it's rude to talk behind their back and be like "I'd never spend that much!" so I'm just avoiding all that drama by not telling them. My mom told my WHOLE family the price of the original dress I had picked out, and then she got guilt tripped into making me go dress shopping again and pick out a cheaper dress that I don't like at all. She doesn't know I bought a new dress, and I'm still trying to figure out how to tell her..

We are hoping to bring our wedding in at around $6K. THe honeymoon is all FH's job so the cost on that is not included..

Everyone is different, so costs vary depending on what you want. There are some things, such as food, that family and friends can do. However, a caterer may cost $35 - $75 a plate, depending on what you want. We do DJ work but only do weddings. You can hire a DJ that does night clubs, sweet 16's, etc, for as little as $200 - $300. However, we provide much more and really know the difference between those events and a wedding. Our typical fee is $800. We also have a band. Same thing. Do you want wedding professionals or a night club act. There is a difference. We get about $2,800 for wedding. Here again, we do more than most bands. There are services we provide that aren't what other bands will do for you. Think of a Physician: Do you want a General Practice or a Specialist. There is a difference and you will have to pay for the Specialist. Weddings can go for very little to very elaborate. The main thing is this is your one time shot. Cheaper is not always better.

I think that it should be fine.... I know our wedding is going to be about 30,000 dollars but we are having ours at a resort....

WOW..thanks a bunch for all the info....im already married, but i dont want to spend over $10K for the ceremony...im thinking a ways now to cut that down... i found a venue that does it all for $85pp....so im pushing it close....already got the rings...and since my husand only wants to include his best friend...well that eliminates the drama of having alot of bridesmaid...whewww...

nyc is very expensive so i think a venue that will do it all including ceremony, reception, cake, decor, etc. will end up being alot cheaper in the long run...

My budget was 20k, but we didn't really keep track or stick to it...and we ended up around 35k, which did not include things like my dress or honeymoon.