How much cash to give at a cheap wedding and reception

I need to add: other than the no A/C (which does need to be addressed, depending on geography and time of year, BBQ chicken and beer sounds kinda good!

Stay home. If I knew a guest was feeling this way about my wedding I would not want them there.

Yeah, I agree with others on this one. I feel like you should sit this one out.. You seem awful judgmental about a wedding you didn't pay for. You don't know their financial situation and they probably didn't want to go into debt for one day. Just don't go. Problem solved.

View Quoted Comment That’s what we all said.

My mom and my first step dad had a wedding in their back yard, had a non air conditioned tent, rented port a potties, cooked a pig and I always thought it was a beautiful wedding. Looking back, I know my stepdad could of afforded to rent a place but this was what they wanted. I loved the wedding they had and the fun I had being there. They weren't cheap and I never heard anyone say otherwise. It's sad that a friend invited you to spend their special day with them and you're being judgmental. If you go, you should give the same amount as you would any friend and try to have fun

View Quoted Comment Agreed. If you were talking about my wedding like this, I would prefer you stayed at home. I think you would be shocked at home much a “cheap backyard wedding” actually costs.

Wow....

I think I am happier for your friend/family having a wedding than you are.

Stay home, save them the money and the friendship.

But, if you have learned anything from everyones posts, then give from your heart what you would have given if they had put on an expensive show for you. They are still the same people, now are you?