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How many speeches are too many??

Amina, on October 2, 2019 at 10:36 AM Posted in Wedding Reception 0 17

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I have 2 matrons of honor and a maid of honor who I want to all give speeches. My FH just has one best man but he wants to ask 2 more groomsmen to give speeches. That’s 6 total at no more than 1 min to 1.5 min each we asked. How many speeches are too many? These will be the only pre-dinner speeches at the reception. Our venue coordinator said she can have the salads preset so our guests can begin eating salad/bread during the entrance/first dance/ speeches. Does this seem too much to sit through? A friend of mine 2 years ago had 6 wedding party speeches and it didn’t seem to take all night

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Chandra · on October 2, 2019 at 10:40 AM
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It's probably ok. The most I've seen was 3 or 4. I would definitely let them know to keep the speeches at like 5 minutes max though. The
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Stephanie · on October 2, 2019 at 10:41 AM
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People get off on tangents during speeches and 60 seconds isn't a lot of time other than to Thank and Congratulate, imo. So, if they're just doing that, cool. If they're literally going to go into a small story, that's going to be a bit longer than a 1 - 1.5minutes. I'm cutting my speeches off at 3 or 4. 1 for MoH, BM, Myself, and my Groom (if he is up to do one). I don't mind my parents thanking everyone for coming and FH parents for assisting, but that's not a speech. To me, speeches take a bit... like 3 - 10 minutes.
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null · on October 2, 2019 at 10:43 AM
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That seems fine so long as they keep it down to a few minutes. I will say that I would let your DJ know exactly who is giving a speech so you won't have random family members/friends trying to get ahold of the mic. That's when it takes all night or ends up with someone saying stuff you really shouldn't say at a wedding
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MrsD · on October 2, 2019 at 10:47 AM
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As long as they coordinate with each other, it should be fine. With 6 speeches, everyone should talk for no more than 2 minutes.
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Melle · on October 2, 2019 at 10:50 AM
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I think it would work better too if they tag team together for the speeches
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Cyndy · on October 2, 2019 at 11:14 AM
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If they can keep them really short that should be fine but most of the time it doesn’t end up that way
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Mcskipper · on October 2, 2019 at 11:25 AM
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I’ve never seen anyone actually stick to only a minute of speaking. By speech 3 I’m almost always over it.
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Allyson · on October 2, 2019 at 11:30 AM
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I won't lie haha, that sounds pretty brutal for the guests. Maybe three can speak at the rehearsal?
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Lady · on October 2, 2019 at 11:44 AM
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I think this sounds awful to sit through honestly. I've been to weddings where the majority of the bridal party talks and it's just annoying. I would cut it down to one each, or just none (I promise no one will miss them).
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Jasmine · on October 2, 2019 at 11:55 AM
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I think you might be ok but 1-1.5 mins definitely won't be long enough if they plan to just say more than congrats. We'll only be having speeches from my MOH, FH's BM and possibly our parents if they're up for it. I would probably have them practice something short and sweet. Maybe like 2-3 mins long.
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Kiley · on October 2, 2019 at 12:11 PM
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I feel like this is a lot of speeches.. as a guest I would question how many more after the 4th. Is it possible to have a few of them speak at your rehearsal dinner?
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Jennifer · on October 2, 2019 at 1:20 PM
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I was at a wedding with similar numbers. They went up together and it still took a five minutes for each one! I would make sure they know the time limit is a strict one, as some people will get carried away with all of the emotion of the day! Good luck!
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Amina · on October 2, 2019 at 1:45 PM
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Thanks for all the suggestions! I think I’m gonna suggest just having my sister/ MOH and his brother (best man) give their speech at the reception and everyone else can give theirs at the rehearsal dinner where it’s a little more intimate
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Alyssa · on October 2, 2019 at 3:32 PM
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Can they do a "group toast"? If your guests start seeing the mike getting passed to 5-6 people, they're going to tune out.
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Izzykern · on October 3, 2019 at 6:11 AM
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In my personal opinion, this is too many speeches. Will your parents (1 from you and 1 from FH) be talking to? I think 1-1.5 minute speeches would be super challenging to achieve also.. people get emotional and may go off on little tangents (like PP said). I would say have one MOH and BM and then parents because guests certainly get antsy if speeches are prolonged. It all depends on what you want your reception to look like! (And also if you are serving alcohol)
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Andrea · on October 3, 2019 at 7:34 AM
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Yes, I love what Amber has stated and I totally agree. We're going to have to have a talk with our DJ (my godfather) to let him know who to actually give the mic to
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Brittany · on October 8, 2019 at 4:03 PM
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Honestly, as long as they're short speeches, I don't believe there can be too many. It's an important day and those who want to give a speech should be allowed to
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