How many showers?

I had 1. Not every wedding guest needs to attend the shower. 9 sounds like a lot. Most of the times I've heard of 2 is when the bride's side and the groom's side both offer to throw a shower or if the couple has moved away from childhood homes and decide to have one local and one at the bride's hometown.

The absolute most I've ever heard of was 3, and that was only because the couple (both Americans) lived in London, and were from opposite sides of the US with mothers who had difficulties traveling.

Sorry, 9 sounds a bit excessive. 9 different people offered to host showers for you? How much cross-over will there be on guest lists? That might be asking a lot of those guests. I'm assuming everyone who will be attending each shower is invited to the wedding--will many people be traveling for the wedding itself?

We had one. 9 showers sounds extremely gift grabby.

I just had one.... 9 seems like a lot to me.... are people going to more than one????? Id plan one or two and call it a day

My coworkers brother was getting married and his soon to be wife had three showers and had different people going to each...it was kind of an issue and instead of having the families come together they kind of separated them and ended up being an issue. And it's kind of a lot to ask the people who have to go to all showers and get gifts for each one.

Everyone I know has had 1 or at max 2, and that’s only been when either the bride or groom had a hometown that was further away and their family wanted to host one for people there. 9 is insane. Honestly if someone I knew was having 9 showers, I wouldn’t bother attending one because it would feel like the only thing that mattered to them was getting gifts.

Hmmm I’ll be having 1.. a friend of our had two since both from different sides of the US and couldn’t have their close loved ones travel at the same times to make it work.. I could see two MAYBE 3 but 9 seems like a a lot.. what is the reasoning for so many and how many people are attending ???

There are 2 planned for us. Wow on the 9, not gonna lie, I like the spotlight and would find it fun to shop for 9 white outfits!

4 of the showers are mainly for those who just live too far away to attend local ones. I live in AL but have family in different parts of GA, MS, and TN. It’s less for gifts but to party with each of them without making them travel so far twice. Yes family in all states wanted to do showers for those who lived close by to them. Then my family/friends offered as well as fiancés friends/family locally. No person is invited to more than one except maybe some of my bridesmaids invited to lingerie and one other but definitely won’t be upset if they only come to one. The biggest showers have around 25 people (2 of those) and the smallest around 10. We also have over 300 on the guest list although we figure of those maybe 200 will actually show. And yes each person going to the shower gets a wedding invite.

We had one. Nine is definitely too many. It sounds like you are just asking for gifts at this point.

I/we had 3. One of my bridesmaids threw a date night themed shower for just me where we currently live. My moms best friend threw a shower for me and my wife in my home town. Then my MIL and her sisters threw my wife and I a shower in her home town.

I agree with others that nine bridal showers seems extremely excessive. It's sweet that so many relatives want to host them for you, but not every woman invited to the wedding needs to be invited to a shower. It would seem the traveling around to attend all those showers would take up months of your weekends.... Daughter's five BM/MOHs lived in five states spread all over the country and the same with many other guests. She had one local shower with 25 women -- a mix of family and her local girlfriends. It was plenty! (Except for the BMs and her fiance's mom, we didn't send invitations to anyone out of state, because as others have mentioned, that felt "gift grabby" to us. Of the four out-of-state BMs, only one was able to attend. The others sent her letters conveying their love for her and thoughts about her upcoming wedding; we gave them to her at the shower and each one made her cry. There are ways to involve your most important loved ones even if they cannot attend a shower.) If you're going to be visiting all those potential locations, you could just get together with your friends/family without it being a shower.

I am having zero showers and so happy for that. I hate opening gifts in front of others and feel like asking people to come to anything else beyond my wedding is asking too much. I even feel guilty about the bachelorette but my bridesmaids wanted to. Everyone is different though so you do you!