How many of you are having a bridesman?

I have a Bridesman on my side in addition to 4 women. Fiancé has two Groomsmaids on his side along with 4 men. At least to our faces, everyone has been supportive of the idea. They're the people we care about most and want up there with us, gender shouldn't make a difference.

I am not having bridesmaid, but I only have 4 in my bridal party. I picked people that I feel closest too, because it was important to me to have them around me for that day. If they are important to you, I say do it. It is your wedding and your family will just have to understand.

It sounds like your grandmother is stuck on the old-fashioned tradition of only having females on the bride's side and males on the groom's side. Don't worry about it. Let her know times have changed and this is becoming very common now.

I'm having a bridesman, FH has a groomswoman. My mom said something like, "that's different." That was the extent of the conversation because she very well knows I do whatever the heck I want to do. If they care so much, you can show pictures of mixed gender wedding parties to show that it is common now. I don't say this about much, but it's your day! Have the people important to you by your side.

I have one bridesmaid and one bridesman. I have known the bridesmaid for 18 years and the bridesman for 12 years. They are my closest friends. No one knows yet except for my FH. I'm sure there will be judgement from certain guests but I don't care.

I have a bridesman .. hes my moh husband but were good freinds too .. my fh is havimg a groomswomen whos oddly enough his bests mans wife .. they have been friends longer then him and his best man

My FH has a best lady, his sister who he is really close to, and a groomsman. I have my MOH and my brother as a bridesman. We wanted the people we are closest to as our bridal party and everyone we have told thinks it's the coolest idea. Sorry you're not getting the same support in your situation but it's you and your husband's decision to make.

Oh I am having two! They are just a couple of my closest friends and my day wouldn’t be complete without them 😊 I’m so glad I didn’t have to exclude them based solely on gender

We decided not to have any bridal party. My FH has a 5 year old son from a previous relationship and I have a 5 year old daughter. They are going to be our flower girl and ring bearer. Then they will stand up there with us and be our maid of honor and bestman.

Im having my best friend from highschool be my bridesman (he actually lives with FH and I now and rents a room) my sister is MOH, FSIL is bridesmaid. FH is having his brother and my other 2 best friends from highschool that have become best friends to him as well as groomsmen.

I'm having a bridesman and three bridesmaids. He's been one of my best friends since high school and it would feel wrong not to have him up there with me.

My fiance is having five groomsman and a groomsmaid for the same reason.

I'm sure there will be some confused older guests, but no one we've told so far thinks it's inappropriate.

Tradition is all well and good, but if it's arbitrary and doesn't serve much purpose, then there should be nothing wrong with breaking it. If she gets too up in arms about it not being traditional enough, point out that bridesmaids used to dress identical to the bride in order to confuse evil spirits. Does she think all of your bridesmaids should dress in wedding gowns and act as decoys for poltergeists too? Things evolve with the times!