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How many kids is too many kids in the procession?

Sarah, on August 26, 2019 at 7:30 PM Posted in Wedding Ceremony 0 8

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My partner and I both have big families, and with those big families come a LOT of kids. We both love kids—especially the ones in our families—and want to include them. My question is, how many is too many?

We plan to do gender-blind bridal parties (since we’re both women and we both have close male, female, and non-binary friends), so we also plan to have both flower girls and boys, and to have junior attendants of both genders.

If I were to have everyone I’d like to participate participate, we’d be looking at 4 flower boys/girls (all 3-6 years old) and 4 junior attendants (all 10-14 years old). My thought would be to pair a junior attendant to each flower boy/girl to help them down the aisle and back to their parents.

Would that be excessive? Too hard to wrangle? Am I letting myself be blinded by how much I just love kiddos?

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Latest activity by Sarah, on August 29, 2019 at 1:46 PM

Legend November 2019
Caytlyn · on August 26, 2019 at 7:39 PM
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It’s definitely a lot, but if that’s your vision, go for it!
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Dedicated October 2019
Emily · on August 26, 2019 at 7:48 PM
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I love the idea of a band of flower children! I would talk to the little ones parents closer to the event to determine whether it would be a lot to wrangle. I’m kind of jealous that you even have that option... we don’t have any little kids in our families, the only kiddos in our lives are my two friends kids. I actually had to exclude them because of space (initially) but where they would be the only ones, I knew it would be really boring (we are having basically a fancy dinner party)...it’s hard to behave when you’re little and there isn’t anything for you to do.
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Cher Horowitz · on August 26, 2019 at 7:48 PM
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I agree that it's a bunch of kiddos. I don't see the harm in having them all in the procession though!
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Brittany · on August 27, 2019 at 12:04 PM
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We had 2 Junior Groomsmen and 2 Junior Bridesmaids (ages 11-14). 2 flower girls - one was 5 and one was 8. The 8 year old helped the 5 year old get down the aisle without straying away or going before she was supposed to. And we had one 7 year old ring bearer. Honestly having a few kids worked out really well. The weddings with just one flower child or ring bearer tend to result in a child running down the aisle crying or refusing to go down at all. When kids are in groups it works better
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Alyx · on August 27, 2019 at 3:16 PM
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I think having the older ones help the younger ones is a great idea. We are having a 10 year old walk as our flower girl and considering her younger sister (turning 4) to be included as well but.... she is a spit fire and her dad jokingly said to us... "I don't know about that.. she will burn the whole place down"
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Julie · on August 28, 2019 at 12:07 AM
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Hey, Royal weddings have like a bajillion children in attendance. You're in great company.
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Lauren · on August 29, 2019 at 10:16 AM
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We're having 4 ringbearers (ages at time of wedding: 5, 3, 3, and 8 months) & 1 flower girl (15 months)! I don't think you have too many! Especially since 4 of them are older.
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Sarah · on August 29, 2019 at 1:46 PM
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Thanks everyone!!! I really appreciate it. All of them are very chill and well-behaved kids except for 2 of them, but they’ll both junior attendants so my hope is the feeling of being responsible for a younger kid will keep them in line haha
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