How many guests were at your shower?

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This is really good to know that it didn't feel silly to be playing games and other stuff. I think that's what I'm most worried about. Thank you!

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I totally agree with the cost thing! I'm really relieved that it'll be so much more affordable on their checkbooks!

You just made my day. Thank you so much for taking the time to type that out. I know I'm stressing out about nothing probably!

I just had mine this past weekend and 21 attended out of the 24 that were invited. I think that there was just the right amount of people there. I got to spend a little time with each of them. I think a larger party would be overwhelming for the hosts and the bride.

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It sounds like I've been stressing for nothing and 20-30 is the norm. Currently we have 21 people attending, and I anticipate about 6-9 more. That does include our BP, but that's ok. I think it'll be a good amount.

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No problem! I'm glad I could make your day I felt the same way when I found out how many people were rsvping no. The people who RSVPed no have been sending us gifts with a card saying they're sorry they can't make it so that's how I know lol. Also my mom ends up telling me when someone says yes. And at first I was thinking omg I know my mom and bridal party are working so hard on everything I wish more people could come, but then I realized it's all for the best.

Have people given reasons as to why they can't attend your shower? It is because they have previous plans for Easter or otherwise? Give people the benefit of the doubt and maybe just chalk it up to your BP not realizing that Easter weekend would be so busy for people.

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Hmm..I am "chalking it up", but all of my BMs live across the country. Since they have off work next Friday, it was a good time for them to come into town to have the bachelorette and shower weekends back-to-back. But yes, some of the responses are because of Easter. I'm not saying "boo hoo look at me, nobody is coming to my shower". I just felt bummed because they were receiving so many no responses and I hate that they're traveling so far for such a small turn out. But now I've learned that 20-30 is a positive, intimate, and fun turn out.

If you have any input on how many people came to your shower, that's what I was looking for. But thank you for your thoughtful response..

View Quoted Comment We’re anticipating 30 people at my shower. These will all be my family and close friends with FH’s mom and sister. Anything bigger and I fear I wouldn’t get to talk to anyone for longer than 5 minutes!

I hope yours works out tho!

The venue they picked holds 50
people so I’m assuming about that

I just went through this a couple of weeks ago myself.

My mom and BP are hosting my shower on Sunday and they had reached out to me about the people had not responded to the invitation. Pretty much my entire FH's side of the family didn't even have the courtesy to reply.

We invited 67 and about 40 are coming. A few of the people who had replied no were especially disappointing, but everyone has their own things going on in their lives and I look forward to being able to spend more time with those who do come.

Try to enjoy your day and focus on those who made the effort to be there for you on your day!

Wow, 70 people is a huge list for a shower. I only had 40 guests at my wedding. We had a couple's shower and I think we had about 20-25 guests. Showers usually just include your nearest and dearest so a smaller guest list is typical. We had a blast playing games and mingling. It was a great size and my 3 bridesmaids who hosted it could comfortably host that number of people at my MIL's house.

Where are you from? A lot of my coworkers are from NY/NJ and when it comes to showers they seem to float in the 50-100 range for guests. Here in the DC area I don’t see much of that. Right around 30 seems to be the norm. 60 were invited to mine because family blah blah blah, I’m expecting about 50% will show.

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I wouldn't worry at all!! :-)

That's the perfect size for a shower! I honestly would not go above 30 people, or things start to get a little crazy - it's harder to great all of your guests, opening presents takes forever, and the hosting duties significantly increase.

In general people will also be much more willing to skip the shower if they need to than the wedding, the wedding is the "main event"!

Easter is a MAJOR family holiday. Many MANY people travel for it, so it doesn't surprise me that your attendance for the shower is low. However, 20-30 people is FAR more manageable and AFFORDABLE than 70. Seriously, you'll have more fun with the 20-30 people that come than you would have with 70. 70 is like herding cats, 20-30 is a fun amount of people.

Also.... i would skip the games tbh. Shower games are never really fun IMO. You'll be able to have a great time with those that do show and most are probably your close friends anyway so just enjoy the company for the people that do come.

How many of your guests are from out of town?? It’s probably hard for them if they are to make 2 trips and just prioritizing the wedding for expenses for traveling.

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Actually, my BP is hosting the shower in my hometown, the wedding is in FH's hometown which is about 2 hours from my family. Odd thing is...most of his family is traveling for the shower, but only a handful of my family will be attending. Very weird, but oh well.

I don't think anything is wrong with the amount of guests you're having. We hosted my friends wedding last year and their was may 25 of us including the bridesmaid and the bride. She didn't complain and it seemed like the perfect amount of people to me. She still received gifts and had a good time.

I think it will be okay!

20 people were invited and 19 attended. My wedding was only 73 and several of the women live a plane ride away so they weren’t invited. I asked my MOH not to invite my female co-workers who were invited to the wedding as my team always throws bridal and baby showers.

Easter weekend is very popular for vacations so I’m not surprised.

Haven’t had mine yet. It’s coming tho. Not sure how many people are coming.