How many guests were at your shower?

I haven't had mine yet, but most showers I've been to have only had 20-30 people total with about the same amount of guests attending the wedding. Seems pretty typical to me and may make it easier to manage for games, food, etc.

I'm having a shower next Saturday too! I personally think 70 people is too many for a shower, and 20-30 sounds more manageable. Mine will probably only be about that many too, but I'm more comfortable with that.

I had 7 people at mine. They invited 15.

We are having ours the week after Easter but we sent out invitations beginning of Feb for the April shower so give people plenty of time. However I planned a shower and we invited I think 35-40 people and only like 19 showed

We invited 150 guests I only had 12 at my shower. I don't think your list is small and it makes it more manageable for the catering.

We are inviting 50 but only expecting about 15-20 to show! Our invites and rsvps haven’t gone out for it yet but that was our best guess given who was invited

I planned my sister's shower, and the exact same thing happened! Not even half the people made the effort to come, which was a shame. Overall, we had 30 people and it was more intimate and fun for games and conversation. You get to talk to everyone and have more time with them. I know how you feel, but try to look at the positives! If a lot are still coming to the wedding, that's great! Spend more time with the people at your shower while you can, since you will be busier on your wedding day!

70 people seems like a lot for a shower. 20-30 sounds more manageable, and you'll be able to interact with everyone better.

My mom and MOH have asked me for a guest list for the shower and the if everyone shows, it'll be around 14 people.

My bridal party invited 33 and 20 showed up. It was a good, intimate, and manageable number.

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Really? For some reason the ones that I've attended seemed to have more than that. This really makes me feel a little better though. I'm just looking at the rsvp list and am feeling really bad for my BP. At this point, the maximum that will be there will be about 26 (36 if including bridal party), which seems like a good amount, but that's if everyone who hasn't rsvpd will rsvp yes.

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Yeah, 70 is a lot. We anticipated 50 to show, so that's what they've been preparing for. Since it's a couples shower, men and women were invited.

I'm just hoping that at least 20 people show. With the BP, that'll be around 30, which would be nice and comfortable.

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Hey shower twins! lol. 70 is a lot, yeah, but we knew that about 20 wouldn't be able to make it. Men and women are invited, so that's why it's about double than a typical bridal shower.

I'm so nervous that nobody else will rsvp yes and there will only be 6 guests that show up.

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Did you guys play games and stuff like a "typical" shower? I'm concerned about participation.

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It really is a shame. FH is decently upset because we're the type of couple that always goes out of our way to show our support to our loved ones. It's sad when that's not reciprocated, but oh well!

It's really nice to hear that you still had a good time. I'm looking REALLY forward to spending time with our bridal party and parents during the shower. My BMs all live a good distance away, and 3/4 will be there. So that's definitely a plus!

Less is more at a shower, especially if everyone brings you gifts and you open them in front of everyone else. Let the wedding be the large party and let the bridal shower be a more intimate event. With a larger number of guests being in the bridal party, you won't have to worry about introverts not wanting to participate in games and you can think of it as the bridal party "getting to know each other better".

I had 21 and invited 45

20-30 is not a small shower. My shower was 32 women and it was a great size. Not too big that I couldn't spend time with everyone, but not too small that it felt silly playing games and all that stuff.

My shower has a guest list of 52. I expect about 30-35 to come.

My mom and bridal party are hosting my shower and the attendance for mine is also going to be pretty low. Apparently they planned it for a popular time for vacations. So there will only be about 20-25 people in attendance (my mom and bridal party make up 8 of those people). I think it's probably better this way, it'll be cheaper for my mom because she's paying the per-person cost, and then my bridal party will have less favors and table decor to pay for. I believe they are planning games and I think the participation will be fine. The people that I'm aware are coming are SUPER supportive and caring and I know they'll be great sports about everything. And it's kind of nice that I'll have less people to greet and can spend more intimate time with those attending. I've been to one shower before and the groom's whole family was from another country so it was only the bride's side of the family which was about 20 people. Everyone played the games and it was pretty nice for the guests because we got to catch up with each other on a more intimate level. So don't worry! It'll be great

Yeah I think that sounds like a great size for a shower. And a bridesmaid who has helped host multiple showers, I was always kind of relieved when some people couldn't make it, because it's a lot more manageable to throw a party for 20-30 people than it is for 60-70. I'm sure your bridal party just wants you to have a great time and spend time with you, so I wouldn't worry about them being upset that more people aren't showing up.