How Long is Too Long for Bachelor and Bachelorette Party

It really depends on the person/group. I’ve been to one night bachelorette parties and full weekend ones as well. FH went to a bachelor party in Montreal last year that was 5 days. I thought it was long at the time, but if you’re going to travel far it does make sense to have an actual non-rushed experience.
Mine’s going to be a full weekend, his is going to be 4 days.

If the group is on board with it then that’s up to them. However I would imagine some of those guys might feel left out if they can’t afford to take that long of a trip. It’s not just money but sometimes people can’t take off that much work, leave their family, etc.

My party will be just a night or two but one of my friends wanted to do a more elaborate weekend trip to another city. I told her we can always travel together unrelated to the wedding. We’re actually planning to go to NYC in August just the two of us for a girls trip.

Mine is one night. Thts the way I wanted it. It’s a lot to ask of people to travel and I wanted everyone to be a able to come. One bridesmaid is pregnant and several have children I knew they wouldn’t want to travel.

FH is doing a two night cabin camping trip.

View Quoted Comment Great point! My FH doesn't really care how long. But his best man has made it clear that the trip is for HIM to get away and have fun(best man to get away). They are going to Cancun. I mentioned to my FH,that I think it's a bit too long and he feels like I'm trying to control him. I think he should be gone for 3-4 days max! Lol

Mine is 4 nights 5 days because we are all traveling 8 hours but most my girls except for one is for sure going (she is due this month so not sure if she wants to leave the baby that long whicu is completely understandable its her first kid) so if she doesnt want to leave the baby i am going to do a day tube float with her & the other bridesmaid are also joining in on that as well! My fiance is doing 4 days & then the one who doesn't want to travel because its not a place he cares to go they are going to do something around town for a night whatever that may be!

Also let me add in, 5 of the 8 guys are single. One of the guys is married and the other 2 are in unhappy relationships. I think this is contributing to my feelings of 6 days is too long with a group this eclectic lol.

Mine was Friday through Sunday at a beach. FH was Thur through Mon flying in to see a friend and then going to a 3 day rock concert. FH went to the concert with a guy who was single and had girls in his tent each night, that doesn't have anything to do with FH.

You need to trust your FH that his friends are in different places than he is and he will respect your relationship. If you can't trust him, then I guess that is a convo you need to have.

View Quoted Comment You're absolutely right! Thank you for your feedback :-)

If the GM are all willing to take a week's vacation and spend that much money, the decision is their's to make.

Me, I wouldn't take that much time or spend that much money.

I already live in a town a lot of people do bachelorette weekends in. I'm not thinking about my own yet, but probably doing something for my brother's fiance. I though a simple two day "beach and beauty weekend". Massages, mani-pedis, if she's at all receptive I'm a huge fan of the sauna, hit the beach, eat some seafood, maybe take her to a dive bar. If someone did that for me I'd be thrilled!

6 days is a long party! I hope that doesn't eat all the pto for the groomsmen. I'd probably lose interest in partying after day 3, to be honest. But that's me, your FH knows his pals and is probably planning accordingly.

My party will just be a weekend. I recently had to move out of state, so my girls are coming over and crashing at my place for the weekend (I didn't move real far, just a few hours). We're hitting a national park and going to a really yummy restraunt that brews it's own beer afterwords. We haven't figured out too many details yet, I've got to talk to my MOH and give her a list of places to go around here so she can pick out a few.

Honestly, even a weekend is a long time, IMO. I had one night out, that's what I wanted.

Personally, I think six days is way too long. If you trust your husband, which I’m assuming you do, I wouldn’t worry about him. I don’t think that’s why it’s too long. It’s just a lot of time and a lot of money. And if you’re in a friends group with many people engaged, it can get tiresome and expensive with multiple days of lodging, food, alcohol, and activities. When I lived in the US, I didn’t get enough PTO to be taking six day vacations just because. It was something I had to think about and carefully select.

Mine was two nights and one day. We drove about 90 minutes away from where I lived. H stayed local to where I lived and his was one day and one night.

View Quoted Comment Yes, I totally understand that! We are only 3 hours away from Cancun,so 6 days seems a bit much! I do worry about his safety naturally, and I hope that his GM's has his best interest at heart at all times

I’m admittedly surprised by how many people travel to destinations and spend more than one day for bachelor and bachelorette parties. I’ve never personally known anyone who has done so.
I’m doing one afternoon and evening for my bachelorette party, and my fiancé is doing one evening for his bachelor party.
I do agree that 6 days in Cancun is quite excessive, but if all the groomsmen are capable of getting PTO and spending the money, and are all in agreement, then it’s their call. I do think it’s selfish of the best man, though, to suggest this sort of getaway because HE wanted a vacation.

View Quoted Comment I totally agree!! My FH told him he was okay with doing something simple in their hometown,but then the BM comes up with the trip to cancun because it's a place he wants to let loose(his words) 😑 My FH is going with it because 1.he is excited to hang with the guys, 2. It's a free trip for him,because BM is covering all expenses. The traditions have changed! I would be okay with one night out with my girls. But we settled for a quick Friday-sunday celebration.

View Quoted Comment Lol! Nope! It's really close! My FH will be exhausted by day 3 max!! He can't hang like he use to back in the day haha

I don't even really care to have one. We may do something we're all of us (coed) just go out as friends to a bar for a night.

We did a full weekend in Vegas planned with our friend that’s a Promoter. Had an amazing time. Did a guys and girls night separately and then the next night we were all together. Made reservations at Sugar Factory one night with the girls and dinner at Hofbrauhaus with the group. Went to the Pool our last day and relaxed. The girls had a big suite with two bedrooms as well as the guys at the MGM Signature Suite. I made these bootyveils for the girls.

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I feel the same way! We just had this discussion tonight. He mentioned they are going for 5 days and over 30 people. I just feel like it's overkill, but he says im trying to control the trip by telling he cant go for 5 days. I just think it's excessive. My party is only 3night, 4 days.