How long is too long after getting engaged to have an engagement party?

Well, FH and I have been engaged for a little over a year already and still have not had an engagement party because it was my understanding that was usually done the year of the wedding (or at least that's my Mom's idea).

Also, it's my understanding that you don't plan your own engagement party. So whenever someone wants to throw you one is when it's okay to have one.

You shouldn't plan your own, honestly. And you don't have to have one at all.

You shouldn't plan your own engagement party.

Definitely don't plan one yourself. We didn't even have one. And I don't miss the fact that we didn't because you get so many parties already with a wedding. If you want one, someone should be throwing it for you.

If someone wants to throw you an engagement party then I say go ahead and have one. If not then I would skip it.

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Typically engagement parties should be held within a few months of the proposal, and like others have said - only if someone else wants to throw it for you! Engagement parties can be tricky too, make sure to only invite people who will 100% be on the wedding guest list!

I won't be planning my own engagement party, my best friend wants to throw one for us but of course wants to know when the best time would be (for us). I keep going back and forth with her because I'm not sure if we still should. She says its up to me if we want to or not! Now I just can't decide because everybody I know had theirs directly after the proposal to celebrate.

If someone offers, then go for it. However, I think it's odd to have one if it's been a few months after the engagement. I'm not sure of the etiquette, just my opinion.

To me an engagement party happens within 1 or 2 months of the proposal. Someone offers to throw it for you as a congratulations, though the party isn't mandatory. Only those invited the wedding are invited to the party - which is tricky because you probably don't have a guest list yet!

I've always thought of this as something to be done before the real planning starts- a way to enjoy the engagement before the madness begins.

It's not too late. It's only been two weeks.

I think you have time as long as you do it in the next month. I wouldn't make a big deal of it and invite too many people though! Like PPs said, everyone who comes has to also be invited to the wedding.

I got engaged October 2015 and our engagement party is this May, so seven months after. We wanted to avoid the holiday rush, have the nice weather and also frankly, we were just waiting to see if anyone offered to have one since you don't plan it yourself. We didn't think we were having one at all until FMIL surprised us and offered. And May was when she wanted to have it for the reasons above. ETA typos

We didn't have an engagement party. I didn't know that was a thing. Been engaged 3 years and never had one.