My wedding is the end of October. Yesterday I finished my vows and I absolutely love them. I started to practice reading them aloud and now I’m thinking they might be too long. It’s about 550 words and took me 4 minutes to read. Are vows suppose to be a certain length? How long were your vows?
Four minutes of vows sound like just the right amount of time to me!! I would just make sure that you and your FS have similarly timed/sized vows. I feel like it would be awkward if you pour your heart out in four minutes and your FS's vows are two seconds.
You could also ask your officiant for advice. They'd have an idea of how long vows usually run and they might have some thoughts of what to add or take away to make it the best vows!!
My vows were pretty short, maybe 2-3 minutes, but my husband's vows were about 5 minutes (he even cut some). He's a writer and felt compelled to share all of his heart. Everyone was in tears from both of our vows. We made each other laugh and cry and all the in between, they were uniquely us. I don't think it matters the length, I think it matters the effect you have on the other person. As long as you feel they would be engaged the entire time I think you're fine. 4 minutes sounds like a good time-frame to me.
Note: you do lose people after a certain amount of time, but that's usually when you're going on and on and nothing is landing (i.e. they're not engaged). I don't think you will have this problem because this is your future husband and he wants to hear what you have to say
I actually wrote our entire ceremony, incorporating traditional Irish wedding vows, prayers, poems, etc as well as some of our own flair and style. Our officiant looked it over and tweaked things to perfection. I think our whole ceremony will be all of 10-15 minutes long. We are even ending it with a handfasting ceremony.
Between my vows and my husbands vows - it was a total of seven minutes (probably 5 1/2 of that were mine). I am a writer and words of affirmation are very important to me. I don't think there's such a thing as "too long," within reason of course. If you're standing there for 20 minutes, that's another story. The exchange of vows, the promises you make to one another, are literally the entire reason for your loved ones to gather, to bear witness to those vows. Do you girl!