Nicole
Devoted April 2020

How is your stress level?

Nicole, on August 23, 2019 at 10:59 AM Posted in Community Conversations 0 20
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So my FH and I have been together for 6.5 years and have been best friends for 13. This whole planning process has me a little sideways. We've chose April 26, 2020 as our wedding date, and we've locked in the venue, we've locked in the photographer, DJ, food/bev, my dress and his suit/kiddo's suit. Flowers have been super difficult for me, going back and forth between real and silk flowers. And then our 1st cake tasting is September 1st. So progress is being made.

Last night though, we have decided to move forth with moving to a new place. (We've been in our current home for 4 years) and it is time for a change. Our current place, the management team has gone down hill and the complex just feels trashy. Our new one, it's new, renovated, beautiful, and only 7 miles from my current place. So excited to start over fresh. But between planning the wedding, working 65 plus hours a week, him work 65-75 plus hours a week, adding in moving/packing, I just feel somewhat stressed. My only day of 'rest' is Sunday and that is designated for wedding 'stuff'/planning. I know everyone tells me to buy a house, but I don't wanna buy until my last name has changed (because paperwork blows) and we are still working on our down payment. [I've seen the process and its way more stressful than the wedding stuff]

Everyday my mind is working and going, almost feels like my off button doesn't work. How do you handle your stress levels and what are you doing to keep yourself calm?!

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  • Amber
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    I definitely feel where you're coming from. FH and I work opposite shifts during the week (I work 8-5, he works 3pm-1 or 2am) so I feel like I never get the chance to talk to him about things and it's really stressful. We're in the process of buying our first house which we'd honestly like to do as soon as possible, and our wedding is the beginning of May. We've just decided that Sundays are our rest days. No wedding talk, no new house talk, just enjoying each others company before another hectic week. It's the only thing that's keeping me sane lol

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  • Krysta
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    It is a quite stressful process. I am down to the wire as we get married in 28 days. Booking stuff now is very smart so you don't have to worry about it later. Get big stuff out of the way & then just work little by little on there other's. Everything will come together perfectly. Congratulations. Smiley smile

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  • Nicole
    Devoted April 2020
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    That's exactly why I didn't want to begin the buying process... lol I feel like buying and planning another big event take the fun out of it! ): but good luck chica!

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  • Ivy ORP
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    That is a lot to manage at once, but having the big things nailed down now will help. My stress level is pretty high because now we are down to the finer details. I am stressing so bad I completely broke down twice this week, full tears. I also realized that either I lost weight or I misjudged my dress and need to have the straps taken in with less than 50 days to go. So yeah, there's that. What we all have to remind ourselves is that something WILL go wrong and that's ok. We are basically stressing a big party. No one died from flower arrangements or a missed queue. Let the professionals do what they do and take time for you when you can. Good luck with your big move too.

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  • Nicole
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    All the smaller things fall into place where they need to be at that point. it was 'shopping' for the for the major (and most expensive) stuff on the list lol. and thank you! 28 days sure does come quickly! Congrats!

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  • Cher Horowitz
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    One thing I always need to remember is to take it one day at a time!

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  • Nicole
    Devoted April 2020
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    Oh geez! That's what I am afraid of. crying a lot and stress eating or not eating enough. As far something going wrong, I kinda hope something does. it will remind me we are all human! stay strong bride to be! You got this!

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  • Ivy ORP
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    I would rather get my stress out now so I can just enjoy the day, mishaps and all. Thank you very much. Right back at you!

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  • Yam
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    You’ve got a lot on your plate! It’s understandable to be stressed.

    Me? Well, I cried at work yesterday because of difficulties with the wedding ring shop I’m buying from. I’ve lost weight from stress. My immune system crashed from stress. Lol I’m in no position to give advice! But I empathize with you. It’s going to be ok.
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  • Nicole
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    Oh man! Thats no fun! I am sorry your stress levels must be through the roof!! Time for a pamper day for you! advice or no advise, just remember you got this! and virtual *hugs* for you!

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  • Yam
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    Aww thanks. You too! I’m just reminding myself I get to lie by a pool drinking margaritas and do absolutely nothing after the wedding. We’ve all earned it!
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  • Naikesha
    Expert September 2020
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    Hello sweetheart

    yes your plate is full but I want you to take some you time a walk, a bubble bath watch your favorite movie curl up with FH and just talk the day will be beautiful you have a good grasp on your timeline. You will be a beautiful bride and I wish you a blissful marriage.
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  • Yasmine
    Just Said Yes August 2020
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    I understand the stress. I honestly have the hardest time managing my stress. I would honestly suggest you getting a coordinator so that you can have a little more time for yourself or hiring a moving crew to help get everything packed. I make myself take a break from wedding planning for a few days a week to keep a balance of work, school, planning, and making time for my FH
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  • Laura
    Rockstar October 2019
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    My wedding is this October 19th, and i'm under some major stress. Not everything is done because my fiance just got out of the hospital after nearly a week, and we are probably going back tomorrow because he's not getting better. He's missed a week of work which has been a huge hit to our finances. We haven't gotten his tux, or the drinks for the reception. We haven't gotten the food. I keep telling him to relax and if we feed them pizza that's what they get. I mean it, but seeing him stressed and sick makes me more stressed

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  • Nicole
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    Holy smokes lady!! You def have a high stress level. Prayers are with you for sure!! Keep your head up tho. DIY it if you must, if if pizza is on the menu, it's the easiest wedding ever!
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  • Nicole
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    By easiest, I mean it in a good way. All that matters is marrying your best friend
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  • Rachel
    Expert September 2019
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    I guarantee you that you don't want to try and buy a house while wedding planning. I just did it, and it blew any reasonableness I had left out the window.

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  • Nicole
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    Yeah, I just think that would be to much. Besides, the place we are moving is much bigger than where are now, I feel like its more a condo than anything
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  • Jocelyn
    Devoted December 2019
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    My wedding is in December and my stress level is to the roof! My fiancé sister has decided to remove her self from the wedding because she feels my family got more invites than my fiancé step dad side. We go ahead and give his mom about 8 more seats so they can invite his step dad family only to be told "thank you for the invite but we cant go because of the formal dress code?". So his sister has this huge fight with us for nothing because his step dad family not going like his parents said 3 months ago in the beginning of planning! She's spiteful and may turn this fight into a dress code issue now(rolls eyes). Try to take it one day at a time, your wedding is still a ways away. Once the dust settles with your move you'll wonder why you stressed out. You already have a lot done, don't worry about much till after the move.

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  • Nicole
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    Joceyln - Good Gravy! Talk bout selfish and negativity. I understand family but this is also about you and your FH. Not about them. My FH and I sat down with our guest list thinking bout who to invite and the more important people were closest family and mutual friends. We didn't even take "sides". I know you are stressed, but formal or not that's no excuse. This other person I was talking to said something about her mother didn't want to drive 45 minutes to the rehearsal dinner and I am gonna say the same exact thing I said to her...

    1. this is your day, don't let someone else ruin it because they don't like the way you planned it or visioned it.

    2. do not take it personally if they decide not to show up regardless of where it is or how you're supposed to dress.... it's their choice.

    3. families bicker and fight, but try to not to hold a grudge, especially since it's your day!

    I wish you the best of luck pretty lady, I am so sorry you're going through that in this manner!

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