How is your relationship with your fh when your mil doesn’t like you?

You need to show your fiance and he needs to talk with her about it. If it continues you will need to block her. When you marry you because the immediate family and his mother is then a secondary. You and him will need to be on the same level when it comes to family now for the sake of your relationship, future relationship and child. He needs to know what she is saying so show him the messages.

I agree, your Fiance now should take control of this and speak with her. You are pregnant right now and don't need this added stress. If he can help smooth things over with his mother that is so necessary right now for everybody. Maybe everyone needs to dive into the root of the problem and put in some effort to come to an agreement and at least demand some respect for everybody. Have him handle it and do not get involved again unless he is there with you.

She was wrong and extremely over the line with what she has said and treated you, but you also did admit that you were wrong on some things as well. It's fine, it happens, but right now just seems to be a lot of hot water than can eventually get cooled down. I don't think this is anything that can't be repaired, all 3 of you need to just work through this and move on and move forward together and unified. Once everything is all talked through and resolved, I recommend inviting her to help or at least share and listen to her ideas. You don't need to use any of hers but at least listen and be kind about it. She also does need to show you the respect too but always keep in mind that she is your future husband's mother and it's always best to try to be on her good side, lol. I hope that you are both able to repair your relationship and always better sooner than later because this will carry on throughout your whole relationship if a truce can't be resolved. Good luck!

I agree with Mandi. I had to deal with similar situations with my FMIL. She used to call me a bunch of nasty names and putting my fiance in the middle. I blocked her initially in every way that I could, and went out of my way to avoid her at all costs. That became harder to do when we had our daughters. She started to see the damage that she was doing and that her seeing her grandchildren was at stake, so essentially she smartened up. We aren't SUPER DUPER close, but we're in a better space than we were 4 years ago. She knows that her son and I are meant to be, we are a close family unit, and that we absolutely love each other. She also knows I'm not going anywhere. It was either she was going to respect me or she was going to suffer some consequences such as not seeing us as often. She chose wisely. Your fiance undoubtedly has to put his mom in her place. Not in a vicious manner, but to stand up for you and tell her that this type of behavior cannot continue. It is not something that can be ignored. If your fiance thinks that saying nothing is helping to "keep the peace", he's sadly mistaken. You're pregnant and when your baby is born, expect this sort of behaviour to intensify unless your fiance steps in. She may try any tactic because now she is getting a grandchild. People like her like to use children as a means of manipulation and sabotage. I'm just talking from experience. It WILL get worse when your baby is born unless your fiance steps up and tells his mother enough is enough. If she does not stop her terrible treatment of you, you guys will not go around her, and she will not be permitted to see her grandchild. Harsh? Maybe. But sometimes people need to be shaken a little bit and know that you mean business. For now, block her number. You don't need that negativity especially while being pregnant. Stress ages you and is not good for the baby. Smile, honey and enjoy your wedding planning with your fiance. Explain that going forward, you won't be tolerating this type of mess. You deserve peace in your lives and especially with a baby on the way. You'll be very tired in the beginning, but believe me, if you have your FMIL harassing you every chance you get, it is going to be even more draining. Once you block her out, you'll sleep better at night at lease temporarily. But like I said, it will continue in other ways but it can be stopped... if your fiance nips it in the bud from NOW!! All the best, smile, cheer up, congratulations on your pregnancy!! I have two little girls, aged 2 and 5, so I know how good it feels knowing you'll be expecting. But don't let ANYONE take your smile away