How Important is the Ring?

I definitely wanted a diamond ring & my husband got it. He also got me 2 diamond bands. When I bought his band I also got him a nice diamond band, we both just like nice things 🤗. Obviously our love for one another trumps anything, but we both spoiled each other with our rings as we normally do!

To be honest, while the ring is pretty, I don’t care about it at all. The fact that you make a promise to get married is more important than a ring, whether it’s the most expensive thing at Tiffany’s or a plastic ring from a cupcake topper.


I don’t connect any symbolism behind them beyond a physical display that you are committed to someone. The type of gem is irrelevant.

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I agree nice gifts are a MUST!!!

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Michelle - nicely stated! The only thing the ring symbolizes is commitment.

Just a material thing. If a simple gold band is what makes you happy than go for that! Honestly, I have a beautiful engagement ring and hardly wear it. I prefer a silicon band. My fiancée ordered a $15 from amazon for his band and you’d never know the difference where it came from.

I told FH if he spends an arm and a leg on a diamond ring I will not be happy. What he got me is so perfect and beautiful. I don’t need a diamond but he insisted on a ring. I love it!

Honestly i totally see what you mean because on one hand it's not like you should spend a fortune on a ring but on the other hand, it is for forever so i guess if you did spend a good amount of money on it then at least it's for perpetuity

I have no problem admitting I definitely cared about the ring. Of course I was so happy to be spending the rest of my life with my husband but the engagement wasn’t a surprise, we spoke very openly about everything and he got me my dream ring. I wear it every single day - and will for the rest of my life - it was super important to me. I also do care about jewelry/fashion. I will say that we also spent less on the wedding knowing he’d spend more on the ring because we saw the party as just a few hours as opposed to something I/we will have for life and pass down to future generations.

To me, more importantly than the cost was that the ring showed that he had listened to me and knew me well. When we first spoke about rings, I explained to my fiance that what I really wanted was a stone in my favourite colour - a soft, peachy pink. Even as I told him this, I knew it was a very specific shade and it would be quite easy for him to get it wrong. When I went window shopping with my sister, she told me maybe I should tell him to get a stand in ring or to ask without one, because otherwise I might be disappointed.

WELL. He worked with a jeweller to design my ring, picked out the natural peach sapphire himself, and it is a perfect blend of his minimalist style and the colour I wanted. I was left in no doubt that he knows me perfectly, and truly cares about my thoughts and feelings. Which let's face it, is all I ever wanted, and so much more important than the actual cost.

Like Rosie, I wanted to see that I had been listened to. I wanted a diamond, I specifically did not want a halo, and I didn't want rose gold. H picked out a beautiful ring - I love my ring (though with COVID I don't wear it as much as I did before). As far as cost goes, he got a really good deal on my ring (Christmas sale), and that made me that much happier.

We went and picked bands together. I went for a simple gold band, H wanted tungsten, but he mostly wears silicone.

I love your attitude! The ring isn’t important, only what it symbolizes! And I love how you put it , that he and your children are your diamond!

The ring is important as a symbol, it always reminds us about our decision and engagement. It's just nice to have one ;-)

I'll be honest, I had a very clear idea of what I wanted for an engagement ring and it's exactly what I wanted. Its stunning, but since getting engaged, I really only wear it for social engagements. I bought a 5 pack of different colored silicone rings to wear to work, at the beach (we live near the shore), for most things outside the house. At home I keep it in my nightstand ring box most of the time.

I think it's an important symbol of our commitment, but I think for my wedding band, I'm going to just get something simple. We plan on going together to look at bands though, so we'll see what he wants.

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Rosie - nicely stated. My proposal certainly outweighed the ring but it's what's important to us individually as wives and wives-to-be.

Thanks for sharing and congrats!!

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Thank you Sonja and it's true xxx

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Becky thanks for your feedback. I didn't think picking bands together was a thing so also thanks for the insight. Shopping for them together is def an option! I have tons to learn

The ring has never really been important to me, because I've always said that a ring is not what makes me want to be with my fiancé. I was the one who could take or leave marriage, and being more traditional in the family sense has always been more important to him so he was the one who preferred to actually get married, have a special proposal, and a wedding with all of our friends and family.

I am very picky about the jewelry I wear because I don't wear much, so once it was decided that we would get married I started looking at rings. I had a whole pinterest board of what I wanted, but I didn't send him any of them. I described the perfect ring to him one night in bed and he remembered everything and picked the one he liked the most with the parameters I gave him, so my ring is something we both like and that was important to us.

I don't know how much he spent, I don't want to know because I know he spent more than I would justify for it, but part of him being more traditional is that being able to spend a certain amount on my engagement ring means he can provide a life for us which includes luxuries like that. He did also purchase my wedding band with the engagement ring because he just got the set. I probably would've gone with a more simple wedding band, but both have been paid for and he was so happy to get them that I don't feel the need to change it.

For his wedding band, he has a very specific idea of what he wants, so I'll be getting that. What he truly wants is so specific that no one can actually make it 😂 So he's decided on the next best thing and I'll be getting that closer to the wedding.

I'll be honest, I sent my FH pictures of the exact ring I wanted for YEARS leading up to our engagement, around Christmas 2020 I got REALLY annoying with it (we've been together 7 years, I was ready for the next step) he already had plans to propose on Christmas and already got the ring I'd been sending him, but was trying to throw me off of the proposal by starting an "argument" that we needed to save money for our home purchase we had planned and he didn't want to spend so much money (the ring I wanted was $1,000) until we had a home. So I started sending him pictures of $60 rings from moderngents cause it really wasn't the ring that mattered to me, it was the act of proposing and showing he wanted to bring this relationship a step further. Christmas Day 2020 he proposed with my dream ring and I won't lie I LOVE It and show it to anyone who asks because its so unique while the ones on modern gent were pretty standard.

For his wedding band, I want to get him something that represents who he is/ a part of him and his interests. Honestly I expect he'll wear a silicone ring alot of the time, he's a small engine mechanic and I don't need his ring getting stuck in the engine of a snowmobile, but I still plan to buy him an actual ring. Staghead Designs (which is where my engagement ring is from) offers wedding bands made out of whiskey barrels, since he loves whiskey I thought I would go that route to show off one of his interests.

I honestly didn't have much in terms of expectations for an engagement ring. I wanted something dainty, not ridiculously expensive, and not yellow gold. I love the ring he got. It has a 1/2 carat gray celestial diamond flanked by two smaller white sapphires, set in rose gold. Sapphire is both my dad and my husband's birthstone, and my dad died while I was in college (a decade before I met my husband). So to me, the diamond flanked by two sapphires represents my dad handing me off to my husband. It is a beautiful ring and means a lot to me!

My husband and I each chose our own wedding band.

I have always known what I wanted for a ring, so I showed my friends and my FH when it came time to us talking about that. However, I didn't want him spending an arm and a leg on something. I'm very simple, so I just wanted a simple solitaire princess cut, didn't care about the size and wanted a simple band. And that's exactly what I got and I absolutely love it. If we want to upgrade it some day, we can do that. But for now, it's perfect. I like the notion of having something that he picked for me to show his commitment, so I like the idea of a ring, but I also wouldn't be upset if I didn't have one because I have the love of my life.