How far out to remind guests to rsvp

Did you have a reply by date? If so, I'd give a bit of extra time from there and then start following up. Typically RSVPs are due a month ahead since that's about the time frame in which people will usually know about any major conflicts. If you had no reply date I'd start making calls around the beginning of May.

B lists are not considered polite.

It sounds like you sent your invites out way too early. Invitations should not go out more than 8 weeks prior to the event. One of the reasons for that is because people see the event is several months away, so they toss the invite aside and forget all about it. Did you put an RSVP deadline on the invitations? Typically, you wait until that date has passed before contacting guests.

You sent your invites about 2 months early, unfortunately. I would give people until May to respond. If you push them for a response now they may not be able to accept due to it being so far away or accepting and then having something come up.

Depends on if you had an RSVP date and when your vendors need their final count by. My plan is to make my RSVP date 1 month in advance and if people have not responded give them a final date 2 weeks before the wedding to respond or they will be counted as a no.

The reply due date is usually 4 weeks before the wedding. That allows a week buffer to track down responses before the final headcount is given to the caterer at 3 weeks. Unpopular opinion but it’s impolite to mention anything to guests about rsvps before the due date. When you call guests to confirm anyone who didn’t respond, you start the evening of the due date after all your main replies are tallied. You ask for a yes or no if they are attending and do not hang up before you get a response. If they ignore the call before your 1 week buffer is over, count them as a no. Do not chase anyone for a response with multiple phone calls.

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I don't think most couples ask for replies before the RSVP date. I agree it's too pushy.

We gave a full week's buffer before calling anyone we hadn't heard from. Mail can be delayed etc. Final count wasn't due until a week ahead, though, which Is common for the venues in my area. It can be a pain to do escort cards and table arrangements so late so I would try to finalize everything at least two weeks out. There's usually some wiggle room in being able to add a number of people last minute so it's not always the end of the world if someone has a genuine issue and can't let you know.

Our wedding is May 6th ( EIGHTEEN MORE DAYS!!!!!!!!!) Our RSVP date was this past Friday, the 14th. There are 2 families we never heard from. Since they are out of state I am just assuming that they aren't coming. We finally tracked down rude, vindictive, childish cousin of FH to find out that he is not coming. (thank GOD) What I'm trying to say is ..... good luck expecting people to RSVP early.

Your invites went out too early, it's usually 6-8 weeks before the wedding with the RSVP date about two weeks before.

B-listing is considered rude because people all too often find out that they are second choice. It's not polite to do that ever.