How far is too far for a non-destination wedding?

We live in an area where it's quite common to make that drive for a wedding. (Napa and the surrounding wine country.) Most couples still provide a room block or accommodation suggestions for a hotel near the venue as a convenience for the guests. Those who plan to stay late or drink will book a hotel in advance. Most older relatives leave early and drive home without incident.

We attended one of these weddings which was also in a barn very much off the beaten path. There were no signs during the day to direct people and no lighting at night. The couple arranged for buses to transport guests into town (where they may either be staying the night or continuing the drive home). We drove ourselves straight to the venue and home after without issues. Your guests will figure it out. 😊

Are there no local hotels? For an evening wedding with drinking some guests will either 1) leave early—like right after dinner or 2) decline if no local hotel and a 1 1/2-2 hour drive. 😞

Is there a hotel close by?
I travel that sort of distance for weddings frequently, but I would only do so if I could stay the night. I have a wedding coming up that we’ll travel ~2 hours to. I don’t consider it a destination and I’m fine with the drive, but they have a block of hotel rooms, and we’re certainly staying over. If there weren’t accommodations nearby it would be a non-starter.

I think if there are hotels nearby it's fine. If not - that's a big ask for people to drive roundtrip 3-4 hours in one day, especially since you know the majority of them are coming from the same general area.

Agreed with all - if there's a nearby hotel (especially if you can provide a shuttle), I think it's totally fine. If most of your attendees are local to where you live now, it's still a bit of an ask for them to drive and pay for a hotel, but it's do-able.

Our wedding is about 90 minutes from where we lived. It’s three hours, give or take, for FH’s family and friends. I did not do a hotel block. Our reception ends early though, so I doubt anyone will bat an eye. But it’s not ‘off the beaten path’, it’s at a beach with well lit roads leading straight to the interstate.
If I were you I might rethink somewhere that will get so dark so quickly before most of your guests leave.

That's a typical daily commute to work in my area! Our venue is a 2-3 hour drive for FH and I and most of our guests (5-8 hours for others). It's not local for pretty much anyone, but it's in our college town which is where most of our friends have their weddings. No one really considers it "destination". For us, that's a typical drive for a wedding. Is your venue near any airports? For our out of town guests, the closest airport is 45 minutes from the venue so very doable, and another just 2 hours away. But I wouldn't say 75 miles is too far, especially with hotels in the area.

That's just a little further than our venue was from home for most of our guests. We arranged a hotel block close to the venue, and shuttle buses, and 72 of our 93 guests booked rooms.

Thanks for all the advise everyone! There is a major city just 20ish minutes away with plenty of hotels, plus the location includes 14 guests to stay on the property so my FIL and other older guest won't have to drive in the dark. If we go with this venue we will definitely be looking into hotel blocks and possible shuttling! Thanks again!