Due to careful discussion with people who know her, I decided to uninvite an old friend. She was a plus one to one of our other guests but since they no longer date, I told her I'd send her an individual invitation. She has no access to a website or location or time so I figured I'd be fine, right? I sent a Save the Date to her ex-boyfriend so she didn't really have a personal invitation... How do I formally / politely tell her "Hey, I uninvited you"?
Here's a back story:
I'll call her Jane and I'll call him Tom.
Jane got invited to our wedding because she was dating a really close friend of ours (Tom). Jane and I actually had a huge falling out about 3 years ago, I’ll cut the story short because it was a really bad time of my life whenever she came into my life. Jane cyberbullied me for 3+ months after I cut her off of my life. She literally used a texting app to kept changing the number so she can call and text me every day to call me really bad names. She also publicly harassed me through social media and cut out details of what happened to make me look like the bad guy, which then resulted to more people bullying me. I don’t owe her an explanation to cut her out. She was mentally abusing me for years because I was the only person there for her.
Anyways, about a month ago, Tom told us that they are no longer dating. Jane and I talked a bit and I thought she had changed so I took her back into my life. She's also apologized for her actions and we were on good terms but nothing could ever be the same. Since Jane and Tom had no bad blood, I decided to let her stay on my guest list. A week later, Tom told us why they ended and that even though there’s no bad blood between them, it’s a bit awkward. He told us a lot of things and it made me realize that she hasn’t changed. I feel so naive and stupid but I learned my lesson now. I just want to be at ease with myself and my mental stability. But knowing she will be there, it makes me anxious that I'll have a mental breakdown during our wedding.
