How does one deal with the wedding planning anixety?

I understand how it can be hard, I am lucky enough to have my family near me but I still get pretty stressed out thinking about all the stuff that needs to be done, it can get really over whelming. But try to do one thing at a time and try not to look at everything that needs to be done at once. I start to panic sometimes because i still have 50+ things left to do and only a few more months, but each night or within a few nights, try to get one thing done and slowly but surly you will get through it all. Good Luck!

Its a good start to the help ! thank you ! I think your right I been scrambling trying to get stuff nail down and I haven't focused on one thing.

I don't know how i'm dealing with it. Its to the point that sometimes i want to yell at my fh for all this lol. I sometimes do feel bad when i think that way. But when i'm with him, i can't be mad at him. But i do talk to him and he just hears me out. After i'm done venting, i feel better. My fh has been helping me plan, so that helps too. But i honestly can't wait for all this to be over. Its too much sometimes.

Thank you for saying that its a huge relief that someone else is feeling that way.

I planned my wedding out of state with no family near us while coparenting with my husband's ex (we have 50/50 custody of my stepson) and working full-time (oh, did I mention we drove back and forth to our home state, a 3 hour drive each way, every other weekend and went on a family vacation to Mexico). It's hard, but I think the best advice I can give here is prioritize yourself. If you feel overwhelmed, ask for help. Take a day off of planning. Maybe take a day off of work and have a you day (whatever that may be).

Your wedding is so important, but at the end of the day your health is more important than your wedding.

I agree with tackling one thing at a time. I decide what we should focus on next, get that booked, and move to the next. I also take breaks here and there and will put things on hold when I’m feeling overwhelmed. I am also an October bride, so we have time! I am mostly planning on my own, I am super organized and very meticulous, so I kind of prefer it that way lol. Two of my BMs live out of state as well, and you’re right, there’s not much they can do, but see if you can find small things to work on with you.. When you start to feel overwhelmed take a break, take some time to yourself, and just talk to your fiancé. You are in this together, and even if he is clueless, his biggest job during all of this is to support you. And your hair will grow back! Still 9 months to go, that’s a lot of time. Next time, just be very clear on how much you want trimmed. Try to enjoy this time while you can just being engaged and planning!

Holy shikes! I cannot believe they would cut so much of your hair off! I'm actually switching my haircuts over to the stylist I want to do my hair for my wedding just to avoid accidentally cutting too much off.

Also, I totally feel you about having loved ones in a different state. My mom and MOH are several states away and I don't really have any close girlfriends in the area so I've done most of my bridal stuff solo. My FH has been super involved with wedding planning and has been great, but I feel the isolation a lot more when I'm doing "bridal" things and I can't imagine feeling that way with everything wedding related. When I went dress shopping, it was with the wife of one of the groomsmen; she was amazing, but I still feel like I missed out on having that experience with my best friend. I bought my dress online and had it for MONTHS before a single human being saw it in person because I didn't have any nearby girlfriends to show it off to. I really like my FH's parents as well but I've been overcautious about sharing with them and involving them because I feel guilty giving his mom opportunities that my mom isn't getting (like showing her my dress or visiting the venue). It's really difficult to have such a big life event happen to you and not have the people you love most nearby to celebrate with and support you. I'm so sorry you are stressed out and doing all the planning without a ton of help!

Just keep in mind that you are marrying the man you love and you are marrying into a great family, that you have family and friends who love and support you (even if they can't be right next to you), and that it will all come together in the end!

Hugs from afar!

I know all of the things left to do can be intimidating when you think about it all or have it all written in front of you. Who knew weddings had so many little details for us to plan?!?!

Like you, none of my bridesmaids live near me and there is only so much they can do from afar.

Similar to what PP said, I looked at everything I have left to do and wrote a thing or two to accomplish each month leading up to the wedding.

Hi Heather,

First things first, stop everything for a second and live in the moment. They say wedding planning is supposed to be fun so the moment you start getting stressed you have to stop and remind yourself that it is your special day you are planning and you're too blessed to allow the stress. My fiance lives in the states, I live in the UK and we are planning an island destination wedding. When we decided to do a destination wedding we really didn't look at the pro's and con's of planning this from two different continents. Our time zones are off and facetime only goes so far when we are both awake. I cannot take him to taste, experience, see, or feel things. I have also found myself getting frustrated about taking on more of the load when planning together was the original hope. I find myself wanting to simplify and go to a registry on some days but then i think about the vision and remember the people around me that are begging to help and i breath a little easier. It can be hard to delegate tasks, especially when you do not know what to do with yourself but they are there to ease the load. You chose your wedding party for a reason. More than likely they are the people whose judgements can be trusted and you can trust them with your life. Trust them to bring your vision to life. Talk, shout, run, vent, drink! Do whatever you must to keep your sanity but do not let what is supposed to be a joyous occasion get you down. As for your hair, I'm not saying go crazy at the hairdresser but they need to know the wrong they have done and work out a way to fix it with you. Explain the style you had in mind and see what can be done to get you there.

Weddingwire has been a big help for me because i didn't know where to start. Even with weddingwire i was still a bit lost but then i shared the login details with my fiance, close family and some of the wedding party and now we are all tackling things together. At the end of the day you will still get the final say.

I hope this helps. All the best and Good luck to you and your fabulous big day.

Pietra x