Personally I think they can be a little archaic.
Inviting only women to shower only me with gifts mostly for my kitchen?
How does this work? Do I only get gifts from people who were invited to the shower? Does he not get any gifts? What about all the people who weren't invited?
I'm not much of a "girly girl" and the idea of doing anything with a big group of women kind of gives me anxiety. I also don't like being the center of attention so a traditional shower doesn't really seem like it's the right move for me.
My FMOL and some of my aunts/cousins have already expressed interest in throwing me a bridal shower so I don't want to upset them. (More so my FMOL, I don't really think my family will mind, but she seems to really be looking forward to it).
Another option is a cash registry, my fiance and I will have been living together for over 5 years by time the wedding rolls around, and we more or less inherited the house from his grandmother so It came FULLY STOCKED. I mean we have no space for anything, every closet, drawer, and cupboard is full, as are the attic and the basement and the rafters or our garage.Gram is still very much alive, and we can't really purge of anything either. Part of me just wants to pass on the gifts all together and just ask for cash towards our new home. Is that tacky? Can anyone offer feedback on their experience with a cash registry? Positive or Not? If i do go this route will that rule out a shower all together? Or is it still customary to throw a party and everyone just bring a card?
On the other hand OF COURSE I WANT GIFTS!! So maybe we have a more modern wedding shower and invite both men and women. What are some of your favorite non-traditional wedding shower ideas?