How Do You Un-Invite A Self-Invited Bridesmaid?

If they continue acting this way, sit them down and kindly inform that you already have a bridal party and you can't wait to celebrate with them as a guest at your wedding. It's incredibly rude of them to put you in this position but they probably haven't even thought of that. This sounds pretty uncomfortable, best of luck.

Oof, I really hate people sometimes. What a crappy position to put you in! It sounds like at this point though, you haven't confirmed to them that they are or aren't bridesmaids?

I would wait it out a little bit (you still have time), and see if they let it go once they realize you're not as enthusiastic as they are.

Eek! Working together makes this suck even more. But honestly who just invites themselves into someones bridal party?! I would just politely tell them they cant be in it.

I would politely tell them that you have a vision of having specific people as bridesmaids and that, unfortunately, they will not be asked to stand up for you. Let them know that you would still love to have them come and share the day with you, but that if they choose not to, you will miss their support.

Some people... sheesh... I'm the kind of person that has to nip stuff in the bud before it gets out of hand. The longer I wait the more angry I become and when the time comes to say something, I'm no longer able to be nice. I would speak up asap so that they can get over the hurt feelings and you can go about planning with the bridal party you want. Not the self-entitled jerks who put you in this position.

Let the excitement die down a little bit and tell them. You would love for them to be a part of your special day as your guests. Looking at your close family & friends, you have selected who you want to be in your wedding party and unfortunately adding them would be too much for you and your FH to have to handle. There will be some hurt feelings, but if they are truly your friends, they will be alright.

This is really weird bc you work together everyday. I hate this. honestly I'd be straight up with them but be prepared to lose their friendship (or become less close). Because these types of ppl usually aren't joking and feel entitled and if they don't get their way they will likely feel you aren't a good friend and react by ending your friendship or beginning to shut you out.

Like a band-aid, quick and simple. But honestly just let them know sooner than later what is going on about mutual friends and how much it means to you that they want to be apart of it all. And then make jokes "too bad you made such a big deal about reading or being a greeter..."

lol but that might just be my way of doing things when people are that rude....

I'd wait for the excitement to die down and tell them that unfortunately you can't have everyone that you love stand as a BM but you can't wait to celebrate with them at the wedding. It's their fault for putting you in this position in the first place.

Its hard to say without more info. How close are you? Is it worth losing the friendship, at least what the friendship once was? I kinda feel like these aren't the greatest friends if they are being pushy with you like that. I've had friends that were like that and it was such a relief when they finally got mad at me and ended the friendship for telling them "no". Since I try to avoid confrontation, I probably just wouldn't wedding talk with them at all, and if they make comments just say "Man, I wish I could have everyone in the wedding party!" If they ask specifically who you've chosen for bridesmaids, be honest, and if they are upset, just simply say "I'm sorry that you're upset, but I hope you will still be there on our special day!" And if they're not, then count this as a blessing to see who you're true friends are, because that will show that their reason for wanting to be in the wedding party was not because of how much they love and want to support you.

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This is all AWESOME advice. Thank you! I haven't confirmed or denied their participation thus far, so I think I'll wait it out for a while. If confronted about it, I'll address it lovingly, but directly. Its such a frustrating position to be put in though; I would never do that to anyone, no matter how much I'd be honored to be included in their special day. It definitely makes me look at them differently. Thanks everyone!