How do you politely tell pushy acquaintances that they aren't invited?

I had to tell a few people that we are having a smaller wedding & there are certainly a few people we would love to invite; but simply can not. They usually get the hint; but my MOH did have to tell one person flat out that they weren't invited :o

Delete and block... Simple! Some old college girl doesn't need to be sniffing around at your wedding. Did she message you? No. Him... I don't care how long ago it was, I'm protective over what's mine.

^^ hmmmmmm

Some rando like that, I would ignore completely.

Anyone else, "we are keeping the guest list to close friends and family". Sends the message that they do not make that list.

Agree 100% with @LillyBean17.

If they have to ask if their invited, it probably means they aren't. Doesn't stop the crazies from continuing to ask though!

Does he talk to/see her ever? If she's someone he never talks to, I think I'd just ignore. If not, definitely agree with LillyBean.

"My wedding plans are going great ... without you."

Jk I'm a sucker and have no idea how to let people down. And because of our families being huge we can't use the excuse of we are having a small wedding. For the love of everything, someone guide me!

We are flattered that you would like to attend our special day. Unfortunately, we are unable to host everyone we would like to have with us. I'm sure you understand."

Exactly how pushy is she being? Is she explicitly asking whether or not she is invited or stating how much she'd like to go to your wedding, or is she just asking for details about the wedding, but not specifically bringing up her attendance?

If it's the first, I'd respond by saying things like, "we haven't decided on a guest list, yet," or "we're thinking about keeping it small/mostly family.".

If it's the second, then I would (and did) give vague answers to questions about the wedding. For example, "When is the wedding?" "End of March." "Where are you getting married?" "In Delaware." (I was able to be that vague because we live in Arizona, and the out of state answer let people know we weren't getting married locally and usually carried the understanding that they wouldn't want to travel for that). "What kind of dress did you pick?" "Lace (and I did not show a picture)". By being vague, I could politely answer the questions I was being asked by people not on our guest list and was simultaneously not giving them any indication they should expect an invite or enough information that they would know when and where to show up.

Damn @Jolane. I was just going to suggest going with something a little friendlier like "We are having a very small wedding. Thank you for well wishes (if she included them)"

I've had a few people ask and act like they think they are invited and they most certainly are not. Unless they directly ask "am I invited?" Then I am not going to tell them they are not. If they do ask I plan to say something along the lines of "Im sorry but we are having a very small wedding"

My FH was a HS and College ball player. He himself has removed a lot of these old "girl -friends" from his past on social media like Facebook out of respect for me. A few here and there have slipped by and still 'like' our pictures and stuff but the majority of it is done and gone. Not a requirement, but surely makes a gal feel his loyalty. I'm not saying cut out his eyes because another female looks his way, but to me it's respectful that I don't have to worry about females in his inbox. Women often hit on my future husband (he's damn sexy) but he never gives them a second thought or Reason to continue on. Everyone has a different situation but if you don't want her to go and she's being pesky, block her he doesn't talk to her anymore! She's a part of his past that he doesn't talk to anymore, someone he once knew, no need to hang on to meaningless friendships. Social media only opens up the door for unnecessary garbage.

**For the record this is my own personal opinion and I'm entitled to it!

I thought OP was just talking about a distant friend of FH's who happens to be female...

Ugh what is wrong with people?!?!? You don't ask that. If the couple wants to invite you, they will and you'll receive an invitation. If not, move the fuck on. It's not the end of the world not to get an invitation for someone's wedding.

@Jolane say what??? Haha oookay.