How do you invite your "plan b" list?

The second you get back no's you have to send them so the date to RSVP back isn't too short. My only suggestion would be to send out your invites a week earlier just to give yourself another week for people to say no. Also if you are planning a B List you should have extra invites and not order them after. Maybe get 10-15 extra just incase.

We only have 4 people on our "B list" and its FH's work buddies. After we get some no's we plan on just sending them invites. FH has already told them so none of them care. Guys are weird.

That's a good idea! Thank you. And yes, guys are weird.

It's generally pretty crappy to have a b-list, and it's usually pretty easy to tell you're on one.

If you see a lot of threads on here, a lot of them are ranting about the fact that nobody can be bothered to send their RSVPs in on time. As many as half of your guests (it's happened) are likely to miss your deadline and then require you to hunt them down just a few weeks before to find out if they are actually coming.

So therefore, once you hunt these people down and get the "no", and you send out the b-list invite, people are going to know they were b-listed when the wedding is in 2 weeks once they get the invite.

Not saying this to be a dick, I'm just trying to spare you from looking rude to your guests. And in turn, never turn around and invite 85 people in case 10 say no. That's likely to bite you in the ass too.

You should order at least 10% extras anyways from what I've read.

Here's a good article from the knot regarding this question:

https://www.theknot.com/content/our-top-wedding-invitation-tips

See "ordering extras"

It doesn't work out so well....trust me. I ordered extra invites (breaks of 25s and 50s)

I sent our invites out at about 6 weeks before.. Our response due date is May 16th and we have only had 2 (four guests) decline. So two more invites were sent out to replace those and we were able to find room for another couple. 3 additional couples added.

I get why they are used completely and with a limit at 75 I totally understand... but send them as soon as you can..

We got b-listed with invites that were due back within like 2 weeks...

I'd recommend not B-listing any guests. People will find out, and it won't make them feel good. All of your guests should be equally important, and if there are people you want to invite that don't fit on your original guest list, consider finding a bigger venue!

ETA: It is true that some dudes (or people?) may not care. My FH invited some of his hockey buddies to come partake in the open bar after we've had dinner at our venue before I had warned him to not do this. He insists they don't care and are just happy to come get free drinks and party, so this can also be a "know your guests" issue.

As said above, you want to send them out right when you get a decline, but also have to set a date in your head that you will cut off your own B List...you don't want people getting the invitation two weeks before, as Mallory said, that looks just weird.

You don't want to call them because thats also obvious. Sometimes you're just going to have to live with the decision the venue you chose and be happy with that.

I've also heard from a lot of friends and family that have gotten married, that those who couldn't attend were some of the last to return response (maybe didnt want to hurt the bride and grooms feelings?) or they had to be chased down. A person KNOWS when they get an invitation to a wedding if they will for sure, no matter what attend or wait and see if anything comes up.

Oh....FH also has "friends" (they're really his friend's friends) that he TOLD back in December that they would be invited to the wedding. They weren't sent an invitation and I still don't have their address. I told him I was done assembling invites to send out and he DGAF...he's already confirmed with them via conversation that they are invited and will basically be party crashers, coming without the formal invitation

Also keep in mind people could show that don't RSVP or that RSVP's no

I definitely don't want to seem rude. We want all of the plan b's at our wedding, but just don't have room right now. Most of our friends are also broke and in college, so they understand. I appreciate all of the advice!

I would recommend finding a different venue, to be honest. We actually went with a venue that can fit 300, but only have a guest list of 75 (at the moment...will probably get closer to 100). Now, I'm not so sure I would recommend that much extra space either. It will work in my venue because they drape off part of the room, which I've seen and looks very nice.

We have a minimum of 150 people. We are inviting no more than we can afford 175. If we get too many no's then we will call people. We will be paying for 150 people, so we actually want that many people there.

Also, this might be an unpopular opinion, but if someone invited me to a wedding and it was clear I was on the B list, I would not be at all offended if it was explained to me that it was a capacity issue with the venue and that otherwise I would have been in the first round of invites. Not exactly sure how you would go about that in a classy manner though...