How do you handle stress?

I make lists. I walk it through in my head and on paper. I plan just the next steps -not 12 things. My fiancé is talking about vows and I’m trying to get him to focus on other things that have a sooner deadline-one more appetizer needed, music to dj for first dance prior to wedding, etc. I hand stuff over to him to handle so I’m not overwhelmed. And I eat chocolate! I try to not think of wedding all the time.

The first thing you need to do is breathe. You still have time and you don't need to stress yourself out over the last minute little things. Chances are, people aren't going to remember the tiny details anyway. As far as planning every detail, in order to not stress out on the day of, prepare yourself for something going wrong. It might be a decoration you end up not liking once you set it up, your timeline could be off, heck - you could be late to your own wedding. Just keep in mind that things happen and if something doesn't go according to plan on the day of, just breathe and roll with it. At my wedding I arrived a my venue 45 minutes later than my timeline stated b/c my hair and makeup artist got lost on her way to my hotel and was late arriving to do my hair and makeup. I didn't freak out, I just took a breath texted my venue coordinator that I would be a little late and explained the situation to her and kept moving. Even though I was rushing once I got there, I still married my husband and at the end of the day, that's all that matters.

My husband told me something a few days before the wedding when I started stressing out. He said, if something doesn't go right or if you don't have a specific decoration, no one is going to know it's supposed to be there except for you. Relax and enjoy your day!

So, my wedding is March 14 - 11 days to go. My mom has been hospitalized for over a week and we are hoping she will be released in time. My job is very stressful at the moment.... I wasn't stressed at all about the wedding, but 2 people backed out last Thursday evening. AFTER we paid the balance to the venue that same afternoon. I'm very laid back person but that really set me off....I guess the combination of my mom being hospitalized and this person had INSISTED on bringing a plus 1.

So - I personally went over to my parent's neighbors house and invited them. I should have invite them in the first place, but had to make cuts. They are now coming thankfully. Of course - the first thing they requested was to sit by my parents. We had to tell them....you'll be at another table but after dinner you can join them. I felt like such a jerk - but I had to remember that they were just honored to have been asked.

This weekend - I am doing nothing but last minute details and focusing on self care. I'll also be Netflixing and order take out :-) And.... probably getting in a few workouts in because they make me feel good. If weather is nice - I'll do it outside. Hopefully, I can visit my mom at home and not in a hospital.

Moral of the story - just keep swimming. Everything is going to be perfect.