How do you divide chores with your So?

We don't really have a set division of labor. We have lived together for 4 years. We both just kind of do what needs to get done. Sometimes I do the dishes more times in a row, and sometimes it's him. We try to do major cleaning together (I vacuum and he dusts, etc.). It works for us. I know other people have more formal arrangements.

Honestly he does most of the housework because he genuinely enjoys it. He says my responsibility is to just not add to the mess too much 😂 I'm a terrible wife sometimes!
I do clean the bathroom and will load/unload the dishwasher, take out garbage as I see it though.

He does cleaning I do cooking.

Me 95% as he is super busy with work. He’s a high end trial attorney.

i wish he could, would, do more, but he can’t. At least not now.

Well he works and I don’t so I do all the chores and cooking. I love cooking and I love chores when I’m stressed (which has been a lot lately). Even when I was working I did everything cause I am just better at him. I love him so much but his cleaning skills and putting things where they belong skills are not the best. He does mow the lawn and things like that. Just make sure you make a chart or something before y’all move in together, because you don’t wanna go in and argue about who does what or you do everything or things not get done because you each think the other will do it. It’s awesome when you create a system and you work as a team.

We don't really divide chores. We work as a team and both contribute as needed. If there is work to be done, we both do it as a team

He cooks. I manage finances.

Everything else we try to split, depending on schedules, health, energy levels, etc.

I've been slacking a bit, and nagging him, need to rebalance!

I am currently doing the majority of the house work as I'm not working at the moment. Before that though, henwould often do the garbage and picking up the living room/bedroom. I would do the kitchen, bathroom, and laundry. I also enjoy vacuuming, so I would do that too.

Usually it depends on the schedule and/or stress level. We know that whoever is home first will cook. The other will clean up the kitchen. Anything that has heavy chemicals (I.e. bathroom) I have to tackle. But everything else we just divide and conquer based on what's needed.

Oh man. This is something. We have been living together for 3 years now. We sat down and discussed the household chores the other person really does not like to do. He hates doing laundry, I hate washing dishes. I do more of the work around the house, but he works 6 days a week at least 10 hours a day and brings in a lot more financially than I do. He also manages the finances. As of now he washes dishes, washes the bathrooms and takes out the trash/recycling. I do the laundry, sweep, dust, tidy, cook, and grocery shop, and whatever else needs to be done!

He works from home so he does a lot of light cleaning throughout the day when it needs to be done and will do all the laundry. When I get home I help.him fold and put it away. We do a deep clean every weekend, and vacuum, dust, mop, scour the kitchen and bathroom and for those days we just split it although he tends to do the bathroom and kitchen and I do the bedroom, living room, and dining room. We both cook together and do dishes/load and empty the dishwasher as it needs it. Same with the trash and cat box. It just sort of worked out that way, we never really discussed who would do what.

First we discussed if one of us has strong feelings about what chores. I want laundry done a certain way and hate dishes. He wants dishes done a certain way and hates scrubbing the toilet.
I do laundry and scrub the toilet, he does dishes and sweeps the floor. After that it's whomever has time or notices first.
If you have a laundry system you want respected or are one of those people who is anal about the dishwasher being stacked right bring that up and where your options fall. After that it's just divide and conquer really.

For us there is no dividing. We just do them. There are a few things I am not fond of doing that he knows about such as taking the trash out, so typically he does that. He hates doing dishes, I don't mind doing them so I do those most of the time. But everything else we do as a team.

I pretty much do all of the cleaning, dishes, laundry, bathroom. Him and his brother (who lives with us) are supposed to do the floors and yard, but the floors never get done. FH does majority 75-85% of the cooking, breakfast and dinner, and majority of the shopping. I make lunches. I do the dusting when I can and clean off the counter and table tops.

I second with Sara. I do most of the cleaning like the bathroom, kitchen, dishes, laundry, etc. I also do most of the cooking as well. But I love cooking, so that's cool. I normally hate doing dishes and especially laundry (since we live in an apartment building, gotta go to the ground floor to do laundry) but we have two kids too, so laundry has got to be done frequently. My FH mostly helps with vacuuming and taking garbage out, but I'm trying to get him on board with doing more. We've lived together for almost 6 years now. He's never really been a fan of chores at all, and neither have I. But when kids are in the mix, cleaning is like a full time job! LMAO

I do all the chores because I have a certain way of cleaning and doing it by myself gets it done faster and my way.

I take care of most of the "inside" stuff (picking up, putting things away, cleaning, running the roomba) and he does most of the "outside" stuff (mowing/gardening/garage/cars/boat). He pays our bills and I manage our budget. We both do the dishes, but he does them a bit more than me. He does most of the cooking and I do almost all of the grocery shopping. He cleans the showers, I do the toilets and sinks. He mops the floors and vacuums our rugs (these things get done infrequently). We each do our own laundry. I manage our schedule and keep track of birthdays/holidays/gift giving occasions and he takes out the trash/breaks down all the amazon packages that come to our house lol. We both work full-time so we try and split it in a way that is balanced.

Honestly we don't really split them it just depends on the day, and how much motivation we both have lol. Usually FH does the majority of cleaning as he has some OCD, and I think it's a stress reliever for him. I do all of the cooking. We did have some arguments at the beginning because I'm messier, but I've tried to step up my cleaning game and he has tried to relax a little lol.

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Ah, the inside/outside thing makes so much sense to me haha! This will probably be something similar to what we do

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Haha it's flip flopped for us, he's a little messier but we both can't really stand living in a messy space. So it probably won't be too big of an issue, I'm glad you and your FH found a good system lol!