My mom is a control freak- always has been. She’s the oldest of brothers and has this entitlement attitude and has to give unsolicited advice. She means well but most of the time, I think it’s from that “I’m oldest, I know best” mentality. Anyhoo, she seems to forget that now that I’m married, I have a new life. She’s still in it but being the way my mom has always been (my sister and) I have not always been the closest to her nor do we disclose anything important. We received monetary gifts for our wedding and every week she keeps asking me if we deposited the checks and who’s account it’s going in. She’s asking how much we’ve gotten total and how/why we should get a joint account. She keeps hounding me with, “so is it all under your husband’s account?” Honestly, it makes me feel so uncomfortable and I don’t want to give her an answer bc it’s really none of her business. I can’t tell her that straight up bc then there’s narcissistic injury and all that. We had our month anniversary and she asked me sister, “they’ve been married a month. What are we all doing?” As if we all had plans vs. my husband & I.
advice? And no, we don’t “talk” or have heart to hearts. It’s not in the culture. I just need phrases to tell her when she’s overstepping. Either way, she’ll be offended bc she’s not getting her way.
I mean- isn’t it kinda intrusive to ask these questions? Like who’s account this is going under?