How do you deal with mom-zillas?!

Don't involve her in anything. The less she knows, the less she has to nitpick.

I think the best thing you can do is sit down with her and talk to her ASAP about how you feel. If you don’t you will have stress through the entire process. It’s not her day and even if she’s helping pay for it she should respect your ideas. If she isn’t helping to pay then I wouldn’t share as much information with her and that way she can’t give her opinion. It’s tough but try to deal with it before it gets worse. Good luck.

I've had a mother-in-law-zilla and she has been put in her place constantly for the entire 2 year duration of our engagement girl, lol. I have no problem standing up for myself. whether it was wanting to invite whoever she wants to our intimate close friends and family ONLY wedding, trying to purchase a black funeral looking dress, or trying to buy random suits for his brother and dad (who are in the weddign party) from marshalls instead of the matching outfits everyone is supposed to rent from the tux rental shop we chose. we have had to explain to her the entire time that we are paying for everything and have already decided on everything and don't appreciate it at all. She does back down every time but that doesn't stop her from trying something else a week later haha. I'm over it at this point and have learned how to respond to her after five years of being with her son. He always has my back.

Thankfully FH is my secret weapon. His mother started wedding drama within the first month of us being engaged and he put a stop to it real quick. Told her he would personally escort her out of the wedding if she tried to start a bunch of drama on the day of.

I would let her know that, while her opinions are valued, decisions need to be made primarily by yourself and FH!

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Wow, your FH deserves a medal!

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RIGHT? Lol I'm so thankful I don't ever have to worry about him taking her side when it comes to his mother, he sees right through her BS when she decides to be dramatic

This is my FMIL! She has been driving me NUTS this entire wedding planning process. She keeps trying to hijack our guest list, she complains about EVERYTHING, she told me she doesn’t like the shoes I chose (mind you I never asked her for her opinion), and she basically acts like this is her wedding. She has been used to being the center of attention in her family for some time now. I guess she is not used to sharing the spotlight. But I am basically dealing with it by telling her no and making my opinions firmly known.

Tell her to back up and let you have your moment. This has worked with my FMIL, and also my former MOH.
My mom has been helpful and not pushy. Thank God!

I'd hear what both our moms had to say but I'd always just be like mmkay it's still my wedding doh

I had a mother-in-law zilla but before we got engaged! Wheeew child that woman got on my nerves! lol she never knew how to stay in her place! But once we got engaged we’ve gotten closer, i guess she realized i wasn’t going anywhere! Lol Just breath in and out and politely explain to her that you have it under control. Take her advice when needed so she won’t feel left out, but don’t let her take over you day honey!

View Quoted Comment Ditto girl!!!!