How do you ask someone to pay for something?

I told my girls that I hired a hair person and make-up person and if they'd like to use them, it'll be XXX amount of money. Who's interested?

I had 2 of the 3 partake. The other did her own hair and make-up and she looked fine.

As for the buying of dresses in lieu of a gift… that's not really the same thing (dress does not equal gift). However, since you did buy their dresses, maybe they'll pay for their own make-up and hair - but you can't really force them to.

I guess I don't understand the point in paying someone do to hair and makeup...it's a group of women...no one knows how to do hair and makeup? But I agree with Miss to Mrs, that's probably the best way to do it.

The dress and hair/makeup is not a gift, that is your requirement for their participation. whether you pay for it or not. If they say No Thanks to hair & makeup, are you ok with them doing their own?

If you aren't giving them the option and are making them do it i think you should pay for it. If it's optional just tell them " i have this hair and makeup person lined up..it will cost *** do you want to get yours done too?"

The only thing they should pay for is the dress, but if you choose to pay for it that is very nice of you.

From there, anything you require, you pay for. if you require them all to get their hair/makeup done, you must pay. If you say "hey, im getting my hair done by X. If you would your hair done is costs $45 and makeup is $30. Let me know if you'd like an appointment" and they dont HAVE to do it, that's acceptable.

The gift for them should be something they'd like, like a birthday gift. Nothing that is for YOUR wedding.

Sometimes bridesmaid/MOH chip in for bachlorette and bridal shower but thats only if they offer to host one and want to. If they don't (And no one else does), you don't have one.

I am a wimp if I have to ask someone to give me money directly -- i.e. the bridesmaids dresses were actually ordered from an online site and I decided to place one order on my credit card, and I feel really weird asking them to pay me back. So I feel your pain. But the suggestions above sound great for hair & make up!

I did what Amber said. I said "hey, my hairstylist is trying to determine how many of you want your hair done for the wedding. it will cost ____. let me know if you would like this or not." For 4/5 of them, I could care less how they do their hair, if they get it done, etc. However, for one of them- my BFF.... girl just CAN NOT do her hair. And of course, everyone BUT her said they wanted my hair stylist to do their hair. She said "maybe". I told my hairstylist they would all be getting their hair done, and plan on just paying the extra for my BFF... because.... she just needs her hair done

My sister asked us if we wanted it done and then offered to pay for half if we chose to go that way. Just another option.

LOL Brittany, I can manage my own makeup, nothing fancy (my "smoky eye" often ends up a "Raccoon eye", but hair? I can straighten it. I can't even blow dry my hair properly. I was a Girl School Drop Out.

Are you requiring hair and makeup, or is it optional? I made it optional, so I just got the price, sent an email and said if they wanted to get it done it would be $xx and I needed to know by this date so I could book it. Every one of my bridesmaids accepted.

I agree with everyone else about the hair and make-up but if you bought their dresses then that is their gift!! Bridesmaids are expected to buy their own dresses and then they get a gift before the wedding. The fact that you have relieved them of that financial burden of buying their dress, is a better gift than what most bridesmaids get like robes, wedding day jewelry, personalized hangers and stuff like that. You have done plenty.

Well I can tell you what I did. I sent a text message to them all and said something like: Hello my beautiful bridesmaids! I would love for us all to get ready on the big day all together at ____ salon. I am happy to pay for all your make-up if you would be able to pay for the hair-do's. Let me know if that works. " 1 replied they were happy to, the other said she would have been willing to do their own but OK, the other 2 never replied and I just plan on paying for it when/if they bring it up that they aren't going to. All of my friends are pretty cheap though, so I was expecting it. I chose affordable dresses and let them choose their own shoes so I don't think I'm asking a whole lot, however I'm prepared to take on the cost. And they aren't very "girly" either so I would really like to have them get done up. Plus it will just be fun.

My daughter is a cosmetologist and did all the hair for her niece which would be actually her cousin and of the bridesmaids. It’s usually $50 a person. And no one offered to pay. How is she to get her money from them without being rude?

LetItSnow, are you looking for them to all have a very specific look or do they just need to look nice? I would approach it by just asking directly. Something like, "Would everyone be alright with paying for their own hair and makeup? I have found a HMU artist I like and it would be $__ (or $__ for hair, $__ for makeup). Please let me know by x date so I can book the appointment." Simple and clear questions are your friend. Make sure you know the amount of money it will cost first.

Also, not all brides give gifts to their wedding party, especially if the bride had been very cautious about how much she is asking her friends to spend on the wedding. That is okay! Don't let popular culture make you feel bad for skipping it (but don't trick yourself into thinking the dresses are a gift either).