How do you afford attending several weddings?

All you can do is save and budget. Plane tickets are very cheap right now so if you know the dates for 2/3 weddings I’d purchase them now.

I’m not in this situation, but if it were me and I truly wanted to attend all of them I’d set aside x amount of dollars every month starting now for travel expenses. I never thought I’d be able to pay for my wedding in such a short amount of time but it happened somehow. One thing I’d cut would be new outfits and gifts and spending extra on bach parties or showers. If you’re a bm tell them up front what you can or can’t afford to spend. Good luck!

I feel ya, it's actually pretty expensive to attend weddings if they're out of town. for me, my bff is getting married and she lives out of state so i actually told my husband not to go. he can send along a gift with me but i said since we are trying to be conservative with money and we have other weddings to attend, it would be best not to incur travel costs for two. for instance i am not even getting a hotel, i am crashing on her couch. so him going too meant we would need a hotel and he would need his own airfare and since he is driving me to and picking me up from the airports, we would need to get a bunch of ubers if we both went.

i think people would understand that it costs a lot to go and if you're financially strapped and can't make it. but if it's family and you feel obligated, i don't see that both you and your partner need to go.

Most destination wedding send out save the dates about 8-10 months ahead of time to give guests time to plan and save up. We had a semi-destination wedding (all our guests traveled- 50% by plane 5hours each way and the rest by far 2 hours each way) so we made sure to send out save the dates early so people could plan accordingly.


We have two destination weddings that are on back-to-back weekends in October. Most weddings we attend are out-of-state for us and we usually tack on a few days before or after the wedding to make a mini vacation out of it.

View Quoted Comment We don’t know dates yet, everyone got engaged over the lockdown lol. So we will see, guess I better start saving...I still have my own wedding to worry about. I have my futuresister in law as a bridesmaid, so I hope she doesn’t take offense if I have to say no now that money will be tight.

View Quoted Comment I’m sure she’ll understand once she starts planning and she sees how expensive it is.

I would likely skip all the engagement parties (except my own) and let my friends know I can only budget to attend their wedding or engagement party and I'd rather attend and support their wedding. Also let them know you'll be budgeting for your own wedding. Of course, they should understand.

Get a credit card that gives you miles or hotel points! With all your own wedding expenses, maybe you can earn some points to attend the other weddings.

Last year, we had a bunch of weddings - 1. My brother's (which I was the maid of honor in), 2. My husband's friend, 3. Our wedding, and 4. My brother-in-law's wedding (husband was a groomsman). My brother's and my husband's friend's were about 3 hours from where we live. Our wedding was 4 hours from where we live and my brother-in-law's was 7 hours. For my brother and my husband's friend's wedding we were able to stay at my parent's house. For our wedding, I stayed with my grandparents the night before in their hotel room because they got on with two beds. My husband shared a room with his best man and I believe the best man covered the entire cost. We paid for 95% of our wedding by ourselves. We did pay for some of it on a credit card which we have been paying off each month. For my brother-in-law's wedding, we had no choice but to book a hotel. We stayed there two nights - the night of the rehearsal and the of the wedding. They were getting married in a small town so there weren't a lot of airbnb options otherwise we would have done that. I know for our wedding, my sister-in-law and her husband and my brother-in-law and his wife rented an Airbnb for them to share and they split the cost. They said it was cheaper than staying at the hotel. I would probably look into seeing if you could share an Airbnb with friends or family since will also need to place to stay. Airbnbs are offer cheaper and if you get a large enough one you can split the cost with others which will bring down your costs. I know my mother-in-law, his husband's aunt, the best man, and my sister-in-law went out days early for my brother-in-law's wedding and they crashed out their house. They did book a hotel room for the night of the wedding though. As for your future sister-in-law I would prepare for her to be upset if she asks you to be a bridesmaid and you say no, but I would be honest with her and express your concerns. I know I spoke to each girl about their budget. If she understands you are on a budget she might be willing to work with that so you can be.

View Quoted Comment Great idea lol!

View Quoted Comment Very helpful advice! Definitely will keep that in mind.

It really does feel like people seem to get engaged and married around the same time! We had that the past two summers. Thankfully only one wedding we needed to fly to (besides our own) but lots of gifts and hotels at peak summer rates. Like PPs suggested I think skipping parties is a good way to save and be able to spend on attending the actual wedding. I would maybe start putting $x aside based on how much you need for the travel and can save. You could also look into credit cards or rewards programs with hotels that will give you points!

View Quoted Comment Oh for sure. I’m really hoping I don’t have to reschedule my wedding next year because that would mean 4 weddings in our circle lol.