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Just Said Yes March 2018

How do we tactfully invite adults only?

Vicki , on June 12, 2017 at 1:08 PM

Posted in Etiquette and Advice 38

We are currently planning my daughters upcoming wedding. We have no children under 18 on either side of the family. There will be no flower girl or ring bearer. Our plans are to throw an adult party/reception. Several of our bridesmaids & groomsmen have young children under age 6. One is offended...

We are currently planning my daughters upcoming wedding. We have no children under 18 on either side of the family. There will be no flower girl or ring bearer. Our plans are to throw an adult party/reception. Several of our bridesmaids & groomsmen have young children under age 6. One is offended that he can't hold his toddler during the ceremony. The venue we have chosen is at a state park in a building that has an exhibit hall with artifacts on loan from the state museum. Needless to say, we have to put down a huge damage deposit for the use of the facility. How do we tactfully inform our guests & wedding party that this is an adult only event?

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  • Alana
    VIP March 2018
    Alana ·
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    Wooooowwwwwww @rachelle.....just wooooowwwwww

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  • R
    Beginner August 2017
    Rachelle ·
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    My wedding my way

    My words my vision

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  • TheeOne2Love
    VIP December 2017
    TheeOne2Love ·
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    Is that on your actual invitation @Rachelle????

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  • Morgan
    Dedicated September 2018
    Morgan ·
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    Lmao at no bright colors on that insert.

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  • Kati
    Expert September 2017
    Kati ·
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    @rachelle OMG

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  • Shows2017
    Super September 2017
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    I put we have reserved _ adult seats in your honor

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  • Shows2017
    Super September 2017
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    Lol lol @rachelle S.

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  • Ms.Fox
    VIP May 2018
    Ms.Fox ·
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    @rachelle omg...I'm not even invited and I'm offended. Lol,

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  • Christina
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    Christina ·
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    This is really weird. We're having a DW and before we finalized everything we asked our closest friends how they felt about traveling. Literally the first thing my best friend said was..."OMG yes! A weekend without the kids!" Haha.

    Anyways, to answer your question, we put 2 seats have been reserved in your honor and below we put _ of 2 will be attending. This should clear up that for a family of four, only the two adults are invited.

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  • H
    Savvy May 2018
    Hannah ·
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    @Natalie J. I flaged you threating to crash someone's wedding because they want certain things is unacceptable. Grow up.

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  • Natalie
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    Oh please. It was a joke. If she can send out a ridiculous request list for her guests then I can make an equally ridiculous joke about it.

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  • H
    Savvy May 2018
    Hannah ·
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    Its up for the guests to accept or not. Why does it bother you lol not your wedding nor are you attending...

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  • Natalie
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    Natalie ·
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    It doesn't bother me, it amuses me greatly.

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  • Jameena
    Expert August 2017
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    Hi Kate. You can respectfully disagree.

    Just saying, once you start considering everyone else who you've invited the less it will be about you. Who wants that? It's ok to be selfish sometimes, especially when it's your wedding day. You won't regret it!

    P.S. apparently having an avatar is a big thing around here, I've been here for months lol.

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  • Mrs.VtoBe
    Super July 2017
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    I agree with PP. ___ seats have been reserved in your honor is the best way.

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  • BrideToBe101
    Expert June 2018
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    The recent wedding I went to was adult only and they had contact information along with invitation for an on-site nanny that you had to pay for with the available times as the time of the wedding on it as their way of saying no children. Of course I let my parents watch the kids since I was not a fan of some complete stranger watching my little baby. They did this mainly because they don't have kids I think.

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  • Dreamer
    Master May 2013
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    Huh? People don't invite kids "because they don't have kids."

    Our wedding was 21 and up as have been almost every single one of the 2-dozen weddings we've been invited to. My family has been hosting adult weddings, for around 50 years.

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  • Natalie
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    'They did this mainly because they don't have kids I think.'

    Or because they have the right to decide who they want at their own wedding free of judgement?

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