How do I tell someone I don't want their kids at my Bridal Shower?

Don't invite her? Given how you describe her and her tendency to take unruly kids everywhere, I'd leave her off the guest list.

Let the host of the party handle this.

Where is the shower being held. Can you say that the venue, or whoever is hosting the party doesn't allow children in the space. An 8 month old or toddler who sits in a mothers lap is totally different than a school aged kid. Or just inform her that it is a party for adults and you don't want to have to watch every word. You can still say whatever you want around an 8 month old they're not quite picking it up like a sponge yet. I really think your best bet would be to have your bridesmaid find a sitter for the flower girl. She probably doesn't need to be at the bridal shower, and then you could say it's an adults only party and not be lying.

The thing is, she RSVP'd to me instead of my MOH. Not sure why...

I couldn't leave her off the guest list because the rest of the office ladies were invited and I didn't want to hurt her feelings. Not to mention, she is a good friend. Just irritating when her kids are around.

So should I just tell my MOH to call her and address it with her?

Why are the RSVPs going to you? Did you help plan it?

No, I just work with her so she just told me she "lost the invite" so she couldn't call my MOH.

Did she mention bringing the kids?

No, she didn't hahah. So, I'm just assuming since we have gone to another bridal shower and baby shower before and she brought them to both. I realize I'm spending too much time worrying about this I just really don't want to come off as rude.

Sounds like the hostess needs to make a phone call and say something like, "I got your RSVP from Chrissy. Just wanted to let you know this is a kid free event and I hope you can find a sitter so you can attend."

In my area, it's actually typical to bring all female children to the shower (of family, probably not a coworker...). Maybe this woman has no idea. I would have your MOH or whoever is hosting contact her and say something like "just wanted to confirm that only you are attending so that I can have a proper head count." If she mentions the kids, "sorry, but unfortunately we are unable to accommodate children. Hope you can still attend."

Unfortunately, you don't actually *know* that she will bring her kids since she didn't rsvp for them. You are just assuming based on previous experience which is fair, but it's difficult to address something with her when you don't actually know they will be coming. I would wait to see if she mentions them coming at any point, and then politely say that unfortunately kids aren't invited aside from a baby and your flower girl. I find flower girls as the only kids at a shower to be very common. That is not unusual.

I think it is super rude for someone to just show up with her kids without checking with the host first. Hopefully she will ask prior to the shower and then you can address it.

Thank you everyone! I appreciate the advice. I think I am going to hand this off to my MOH (; thank yall!

I agree, host should be making the reminders this is an adult only event

Or if she shows up with her kids have the host pull her aside and politely tell her the shower is for adults only

Your host can go over that its an adult only celebration.

Update: MOH called her and said "I got your RSVP from Chrissy, but I am just calling to confirm as I need a final headcount" and she said it will just be her! yay! lol

(my bridal shower is this weekend that's why we needed to know now lol)

I totally made this into a bigger problem than it needed to be apparently lol but thank yall for your advice!

Glad it all worked out!

Yay! So glad it all worked out. Now have some fun this weekend!

Glad it worked out for you! one less stress! enjoy your shower!