How do i tell my M.i.l that i don't want her to post all our wedding photos on social media??

You just tell her and that unauthorized posting will result in her never seeing her future grandkids. Kidding. Well kind of. Tell her you’ll definitely send her some awesome pro photos she CAN post. That should be fine.

My mom posted when we got engaged on Facebook before us so we kindly asked her to take it down. My mother-in-law also tends to post stuff without our permission. I would have your fiance talk to her and explain while you guys know she is excited that you are getting married could she please refrain from posting anything on social media from the wedding. I would let him handle it since it is his family.

Does she know how to post photos from a usb device? if not just put them on there so she can print the ones she likes or make her a brag book with the pics youd be okay with her sharing

I would tell her that YOU and your Husband are the ones who will be posting the FIRST images from the wedding.
She can post any after you guys have had a chance to share first.
We have a statement on the wedding website about that.

MoH1 posted and tagged the venue in 15 pictures. We hadn’t even posted any.

I had to text her 3 times to request that she remove the tags.

I also sent her an e-mail on Sunday to clarify that she does NOT have permission at ANY time to post pictures of me or my kid(s) once they are born.

Again, I ask why do people seem to want to share other people’s business, event. or news with other people?!

Your FH just needs to tell her that she is not to post any pictures unless she asks you and that you will be posting everything first.

Send her ones you don't mind her posting, but tell her she's not allowed to post them. If she asks for more, tell her they're staggered and that's all you have so far. If she doesn't post the ones you told her not to, she gets more. If she posts them even though you told her not to, that's all she gets, and you can tell her why. If she didn't keep those to herself, she'll post the rest!

Simple... just tell her not to post anything without running it by you first. If she can’t agree to that, don’t share any photos with her.

You all are AMAZING! Thanks for the advice (also wow on the response time!!) She is just a suuuuuuuper sensitive person and the tiniest things hurts her feelings. I’m afraid if I say the wrong thing she’ll fall into an endless pit of her apologizing incessantly, which she’s know to do. She really does means well but just gets caught up in things. Anyway, this was great advice, thanks all!

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Don't feel bad! They're the photos that you paid for. If you and FH don't want to share them with the world, that's your decision. I see PPs have already given you great advice, so just wanted to pop in and say you're totally justified!

My mother in law is like this too. We made it clear to her that she is not to post any pictures of our wedding day on social media and until we do it ourselves first. As soon as we finally did post pictures from our wedding literally 2 seconds later she makes a post and kept asking to be tagged in ours so her co-workers could see. Social media seriously runs peoples lives.

My parents like to do stuff like that. When we got engaged I called them both on the phone and specifically asked them not to say anything, as it was not there place. I let them know once i announced they could re-post the photos I’d sent them. Same with the engagement photos I just Got back. I asked them to keep the photos to themselves for now until I post (FH doesn’t post on social media usually). They were okay with it. Hopefully your MIL will respect your wishes once you or your FH lets her know.

Your MIL does not get to make ANY of your decisions for you, no matter how big or small those decisions may be. Your marriage belongs to you and your husband; and the two of you choose what info and/or photos are released online. My husband and I give his mother NO information whatsoever about any topic, therefore she has no gossip & no pictures to post all over the Internet. If a person wants to be trusted, they cannot earn your trust by making your decisions & posting your life online without permission.
You & your husband have to make the choices here that are right for your life together; but absolutely NO ONE else has a right to do that for you. No one.