How do i tell my family they are not invited to my wedding?

Don't send any invites or save the dates. Do not let them pressure you and do not share details.

View Quoted Comment I sent them save the dates already. I did it kind of early because I did not know about the whole COVID situation. I know most likely they will start talking with me again, but I do not feel like they need to come and I know if I don’t say they are not invited it’s going to cause more drama I do not need

With your wedding being over a year away, I would hold off on uninviting people. Things could very well change by then and you may want those people at your wedding. And if things haven’t changed and you don’t have any sort of relationship with them 15 mos from now, I’m sure they will already know they are no longer invited. I just wouldn’t send them an invitation at that point.

View Quoted Comment Okay. I just know her side of the family will still hold a grudge against me and continue to talk bad about me behind my back so I don’t know if my decision will change

View Quoted Comment Girl, I hear ya! I am actually in the same position. I had three aunts completely cross the line with me and ruin our relationships due to politics recently. I completely intend to cut them from my guest list. But, since my wedding is a year away, I don’t want to be hasty. If it were next week or the next few months, I would absolutely uninvite them. But, since it’s so far away, I realize there is a chance we could reconcile; and I don’t want to go through the hassle and drama of uninviting them then having to re-invite them LOL

View Quoted Comment Yes! Exactly! It was over politics, which was stupid and other family members got involved who weren’t even there and no one even asked about my side. They all made hasty decisions over something so small. Well when the time comes, if things are not back to the way they were they are not invited anymore. I appreciate the advice!

View Quoted Comment Good luck! Hopefully everything is smoothed over before then. But, if not, at least you will only be surrounded by those who love and support you on your wedding day.

I wouldn't be sure in your decision yet because your wedding is still a bit aways. In the meantime, pray or meditate on it.

Only in families does this crap happen!! I wouldn’t start uninviting people just yet. So much could happen between now & when it’s time to send out the invitations. People are going to talk regardless!

View Quoted Comment Thank you! Same goes to you!

Sometimes feelings are seasonal. You could feel this strongly about them not being invited now but may have a break through with one or all of them 2 months out before your wedding. You should make sure you still feel the same way about your family as close as possible to the wedding, because once there’s no invitations going out to them, you have to stand tall on that decision. I hope everything works out 💫

View Quoted Comment Thank you.

This may be tough to hear but: A Save The Date is an invite. Family first, politics second. You are a waaaaaay away from your wedding, so things will probably settle down. To be even more blunt: You will lose more family by not inviting them than you will over politics. Best wishes!