How do i set a date?

Honestly a lot of times it comes down to what's available at the venue you like. I say go in with an idea of the season you want but be open to dates. You ll never please everyone the only people who I ran the date by was our parents and siblings and the bridal party everyone else found out when the save the date went out. Best of luck!

Agree with Rosebud. You won’t be able to please everyone, so just run the date by your VIPs (parents, siblings, wedding party, etc.) and then choose from there.

Fall is the most popular time to get married (especially October), so much of the time the date will be dependent on venue availability.

I'd go by venue availability and rule out any date that falls on an important holiday for you or your guests. I agree with the advice to check with your VIPs before booking. Other than that it helps to be flexible. I didn't care about the number on the calendar, matching a significant anniversary or even the time of year. The venue and the caterer were most important to us.

We are getting married on the 17th of this month .. when we went to pick out a venue we really wanted our date to be 10/22/22 but unfortunately the place we picked (which I’m so happy about) only had 09/17/22 or 11/5/22 so we went with September 🤗

Once you find the venue you want, figure out what dates they have available in your preferred season and then go with one. Before you go/decide, check with your absolute VIPs (parents, siblings, etc.) about things that they cannot change as far as plans go - for example, my in-laws had a continuing education cruise that they had to be on on the first date we were discussing, so we moved everything up.

Thank you, everyone!

We are in the same boat in a way. We just got engaged and are thinking fall of 2023 but no dates are really sticking out. I think for us and the time frame, we will end up going with whichever date is available at the venue we choose. You guys have plenty of time to think on dates but like others said, run it by your VIPs. Also, think of any meaningful dates (parents/grand parents anniversary), or dates that you can eliminate (holidays) and coordinate around that. At the end of the day, the people who are most important to you will make it no matter the date.

Pick a venue that fits with your budget. Then look at availability during the time you want, and go from there. I'd check with VIP's like parents to make sure that works for them. Good luck planning!

We picked a season we wanted, then when we found a venue we loved, we went based on their availability within that season. We had several options so we picked one that was still a decent time of year temperature wise and generally nice weather wise as well.

If you have a venue that you want, check what dates they have open. That will help narrow it down. We chose a date during a long holiday weekend so knew most folks would be off so that made it easier.

We picked a date that worked for us. It worked with my school schedule (holiday weekend), which was hard to know a year out. We then told parents/family and found a venue that worked with that date.
If you’re more flexible on the date, you have enough info to start your search. Start looking at the venues you’re interested in and see what they have available in the fall.
You’re never going to find a date that works for everyone. So don’t stress about that. The ones that really want to be there will work their schedule around what you chose and if they can’t know it’s not personal. My husbands aunt couldn’t make it due to getting a new job and not qualify for time off yet. We couldn’t foresee that during planning and she couldn’t do anything about it.

Congratulations to you both and you ha e to pick a date that is special to you both and go with that. Your date may or may not work for others you will never satisfy them all it may be good for some and not others. And some say not to have it on the weekend because it may cost more. But for us it actually worked out for us on the weekend and our cost is low as well same spot for ceremony and reception. So set your date for you both and hope for those that you invite can attend. Good luck and happy planning

I agree with Monique, pick a date special to you and trust that everything will fall into place as it's supposed to. And do whatever day of the week works for you and your budget.

We wanted our wedding in the summertime and avoided holidays like 4th of July and Labor Day, and a couple of birthdays. That really narrowed down dates to choose from.

We really wanted an October wedding, a certain priest at our church to officiate, and a specific reception venue. There was one date in October that both the priest and reception venue had available, so that was the date we chose. The only big event for any of our VIPs was my parents' anniversary, so it was pretty easy to avoid conflicts there.

I wouldn't worry about working around the schedules of people outside of your VIPs (parents, siblings, MOH/ BM, etc.). No matter what, there's going to be SOMEONE who has SOMETHING on your date, either before you set it or after, so just accept that you can't plan around everyone and carry on.

As long as you send out save the dates and invites ahead of time the out of state guests will have time to prepare and make arrangements. Because time is on your side I would say talk to your fiancé and choose a date that you both like!