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ANNA
Just Said Yes September 2020

How do i honor my deceased daughter as my maid of honor in my wedding procession?

ANNA, on August 21, 2019 at 2:39 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 1 11
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My only daughter passed away three years ago to stage 4 cancer she was my mini me and my best friend I was supposed to get married prior to that happening I put it off for three years I am now just at the point where I'm even considering getting married and we are planning a marriage ceremony for next year my question is there was never any doubt in my mind who would be my maid of honor in fact she and I spoke about it many times how do I pay honor to her and represent her in my wedding procession down the aisle? her two little children are going to be in the wedding as my ring bearer and my flower girl as well as my three songs which were her brothers I also have two bridesmaids but I want somehow to show that she is the maid of honor is there any one who may have suggestions on how to represent her tastefully in the actual possession?

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Latest activity by kittycow, on September 16, 2019 at 10:25 PM
  • Rachael
    Expert October 2019
    Rachael ·
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    Could maybe whoever she would have been walking with carry a picture of her?

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  • Ivy ORP
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    I was going to recommend having her children carry her picture. If they are old enough they can place the picture next to where you will be standing, or a bridesmaid can do that. I would recommend an easel or small table so she's not on the floor. You can even have a bridesmaid place a bouquet by the picture so she still has her own. I'm so sorry for your loss and cannot imagine your pain, but I think it is beautiful that you want to honor her in this way.

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  • Cyndy
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    I can’t imagine your pain and having to do this without her by your side but I’m sure she will be watching from heaven. I like the last persons idea of a picture on an easel with a beautiful bouquet. We had our officiant mention a few loved ones that weren’t able to join us during the actual service and then we laid flowers on chairs that we left empty in the first row. I’m sure you will come up with a beautiful way to honor your daughter.
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    Abby ·
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    This is a wonderful idea. I am beyond sorry for your loss. It’s beautiful you are going to honor her at your wedding💕💕
    i hope all planning goes well and you have a great day!
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  • Madison
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    Madison ·
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    My maid of honor is going to be carrying a photo of my grandma. She just recently passed and I am having a tough time planning anything. I am so sorry for your loss. In the front row I am having a chair decorated with my grandmas favorite flowers and her picture. Maybe you could have a chair in memory of your daughter next to where you are going to stand. I love the idea of having her children walk it down.
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  • ANNA
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    ANNA ·
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    Thank you ♥️
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  • ANNA
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    I hope so thank you so much ♥️
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  • ANNA
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    ANNA ·
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    She would have been the maid of honor she would have walked by herself ♥️
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  • Lakesha
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    Lakesha ·
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    Have your bride maid carry a picture of her with says maid of honor you can get it made from Walgreens
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  • ANNA
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    ANNA ·
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    So are you saying have all of my bridesmaids carry a picture of her? I don't understand it sounds like a great idea I just don't understand LOL. I guess what I'm trying to do is in some way show she is still part of the axial precession but I'm not trying to bring everyone else down I want to honor her life and I know she would be happy on this day just trying to figure out logistics
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  • kittycow
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    Personally, I would look at your daughter's children as being her best representatives in the procession and not think of them in terms of their wedding roles since they're now so much more than that. I would also definitely have a program listing your daughter as the spiritual Maid of Honor (or something to that effect), maybe add a tasteful memorial table. And since I unfortunately know your pain soul-deep, my other suggestion is to put your daughter's picture in a flat locket and pin it under your dress next to your heart. Also maybe carve out the first few quiet minutes of your wedding day alone to just talk to her over coffee so you're not trying to repress your grief as the activities start to pick up.
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