How do i ask someone to be in my wedding

I'd call them. Gifts are totally unnecessary. Also wait until fall.

First, your wedding is not for another 15 months. You shouldn't ask until 6-8 months before the wedding.

Second, just make a telephone call. All of these bridesmaid proposals are expensive and out of hand.

Eta, be careful about having too large of a bridal party because that's also a huge cost and source of drama.

Once you ask, you cannot un-ask.

^ What Lindsey said. It's waaaaaay too early to ask now, so fall would be good. Call them or ask them in person.

I asked mine in person n would Skype if they were OOT.

I'd ask them in person or over the phone. I'd give gifts closer to the wedding as a thank you.

Best wishes !

Call them or take them out to dinner individually about 6-8 months before your wedding. Anything else is unnecessary.

I took mine out to lunch and asked.

You maybe excited now but I really would ask even if they are siblings. Outside of relationships changing, you don't want to overwhelm them with wedding stuff so soon. Wait till about 6 or 7 months out

Like PPs have said, definitely wait. But when you do, I'd call or ask in person if you can. All the proposal boxes/gifts are just more money you don't need to spend.

Calling is always better IMO. I've always seen (and experienced) brides giving their wedding party gifts, even if it's something small. I wouldn't think it was a huge deal if gifts were not given though. I am just buying my bridal party necklaces and earrings to wear during the ceremony. They were not expensive, I honestly got them from Icing and they have crazy sales going on. I spent $92 on my earrings, earrings for my mom, and the necklaces and earrings for my 7 bridesmaids, so not bad at all!

OK because I've seen people buy gifts and have parties to ask people. So a phone will do

Calling (or asking in person) is simple and sincere. Maybe wait a little longer, though. Lots of headaches can come from asking your bridal party too early.

Oh and I second everyone's opinions, wait to ask! I have not officially asked all of my bridal party yet. My maid of honor and my cousins who are like sisters already know they'll be in it but I have not officially "asked" per say. I will when I ask the rest.

Also agreed with those who said to ask them in person if possible! I did not really think about this option as my bridal party all live at least an hour away from me and two will be flying in.

After the wedding I should send thank you gifts?

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Absolutely get them thank you gifts- these are often given at the rehearsal dinner.

I plan to write a handwritten personal note with a picture of us in it, and present it to each of them in person when I ask. Just a little something to show that they are important to me and that it means a lot that they put all the time and effort into being there for me. I have one out of town friend I plan to Skype with to ask her, and I will mail her card.

I just asked mine. I didn't do anything exciting. A phone call is fine but in person is always nice.

Call and gift arent necessary at all!

Call. In November or December.