How did you pick your wedding party? (bridesmaids)

You just pick the people you can't imagine your day without. Your VIPs. There was never any question or hesitation in who I would pick to be apart of my bridal party. My best friend from 3 years old, my sister, my best friend from HS and my Best friend from college/former roommate. I also had my FH's sister stand with me. It was important to him she be included and we get along really well so I was glad to have her there.

Go with people whom you truly value and don't just add people to add people or because you think they will get upset at not being included. If thats only one person then its only one person. Don't over think it.

I had a hard time also deciding on who to pick since I am more of an introvert and only really have, like, 2 really good friends. I have tons of acquaintances, none of which I felt comfortable asking/having be a part of my special day.

I took my time and really thought about it. I didn't ask anyone until 6 months into my engagement. I am glad that I did, because one girl I was planning on asking and was very close with at the time of my engagement fell off the face of the earth and our years-long friendship dissolved in a matter of months.

My MOH was an obvious choice to me: my best friend. Then, I picked one of my first-cousins. We're the two only children in our family and very close in age (only a few months apart) and we have always had a very close bond to one another; I think of her as almost a sister. Then, I decided to ask the girl I worked with. We had formed a close relationship over the years, helped/supported one another through many tough times in our personal lives (family loss, breakups, family problems, etc.) and we worked well together.

I honestly don't think I could have picked a better team, because all three ladies have been unconditionally loving and supportive, and our wedding day went so smoothly.

Personally I am only haveing 2 BM but we are having a very small personally wedding. My matron of honor has been my best friend for the past 18 years and I was her maid of honor. I couldn’t imagine my day without her. My bridesmaid is my fiancé’s little sister. Her and I have been friends for 9 years and talk almost daily, I couldn’t even imagine not having her stand next to me as well as her daughters being my flower girls.

I feel like if you Have to second guess a person then it would be a no for that person but that’s just my opinion.

MOH - cousin who I call twin
BM - Best friend from HS, close friend of 6 years, stepsister, and girl from work.

We have a really large group of super close friends so this was really difficult for me. I honestly could have had 20 girls but I chose 8 (1 had to back out). I could not imagine my day without ANY of those 20 people. Realistically though there had to be a cut off. My longest best friend (basically from birth is the one who needed to back out of the party), my SIL & then 6 of my best friends.

My MOH is my best friend from high school but she's more like a sister.

My bridesmaids are my sister, my sister in law who I went to school with and my cousin who I'm VERY close to. They all mean everything to me and I couldn't imagine my day without them.

Pick those you're closest with. Those you can't imagine not being up there with you on your special day. I would stay away from picking people out of obligation. Like a FSIL or cousin you aren't close with that you feel like you should include because they are or will be family. I know women who have done this and completely regretted it.

I chose not to have a bridal party. I could have easily chosen a few ladies to stand beside me, but my FH couldn’t have chosen as many to balance it out. He’s kinda new to the area since he moved to my town, and we just bought our home in May, so the only guys he could choose are from his hometown, and he doesn’t want people from his past “influencing” him on his special day. We settled on no party, but we are having a special section for those we are closest to so that they still hold some sort of importance in our big day.

I went with my 3 bffs (2 from college, 1 from growing up). I was considering my baby cousin (I mean she’s an adult, in college, but 10 years younger than me) and my SIL as well. In fact, when we were first discussing it, I told my H that I could do anywhere from 3-5 people. [HE had a heck of a time narrowing it down but ultimately chose 4 people], and when he came back to me with that number, I was like “ya know. I think I’m gonna go with just 3 actually”

The ultimate decision factor for me was mostly the degree of closeness— I am SUPER close with my bffs, the two from college are also bffs, and my friend from growing up has known them all from hanging out with all of us a bunch over the last decade or so (as clarification, we’re in our 30s, so “college friend” doesn’t indicate new or recent haha). So everyone got along and had a great dynamic which I don’t think is 100% necessary, but was super key for me as a really low key bride. To throw my cousin and my SIL in there, I worried I would not be able to let loose and relax as much, worrying both about them having a good time and being comfortable AND about
me being able to be completely myself. My three girls have been through EVERYTHING with me, from highest highs to lowest lows, so ultimately they were the only people I wanted by my side all day

My MOH is my best friend that I've known for 15 years. There was no question that I wanted her by my side as we're very close.

My bridesmaid is my cousin. One of the main reasons I chose her is because I want the opportunity to get closer to her. i think during the wedding process that we could really bond even more.

I am currently still up the air a bit about a third bridesmaid (as my fiance as 3 on his side of the party).

At the end of the day you need to pick who you cannot imagine your wedding day without. Pick people that you genuinely want to be standing beside you, not people that you feel obligated to include. Being in a wedding party can come with a lot of responsibility and you also want to make sure you're choosing people who will be reliable and that will be willing to help you out with planning. You ideally don't want to choose someone that you'll have to chase down to go to her dress fitting.

I get anxious and stressed very easily so I chose the people I was closest to, and I know would be able to help calm me down. My best friend of 18 years in my MOH, and I've known the rest of the party for over 10 years as well. I suggest you pick people (no matter if you've known them 1 year or 20 years) that you can depend on and will help you have the most fun on your big day AND during the planning process.

I chose my 3 bestest friends. They mean the world to me and I just can’t imagine going through something so important like marrying my love without them there by my side. They have been through everything with me. There was no question about it. The hardest part was picking MOH.

Idk, for me, I don't really have friends that I'm super close with besides one girl. I'll go months without talking to them, but the dynamic is pretty constant. I'm a serious introvert and I'd get overwhelmed in a friendship where I had to put in effort all the time to even talk to someone regularly. So I picked a college friend who shared the same major and classes, a high school friend I still talk to (and FH and I crashed on her couch every weekend when we'd go to Disneyland), the only female friend I have down here in FL, and my long-time best friend who I actually do talk to frequently. I could imagine my day without all but one of them, honestly. But I have fun with them and we're friends. FH is the same way, he picked his brother, high school friend he sometimes talks to, college friend, and a mutual friend who is probably closer friends with me, but we stuck him on FH's side anyway. I tacked on my 2 cousins because they were the only ones who could go with me to see how my dress bustled.

I picked my 5 best friends, and his 4 sisters. I knew prior to him asking, that I would ask them. They are all important and close to me. It's a big party, so we have to plan more cost-wise for rehearsal dinner, gifts, flowers, etc. but it hasn't been a huge deal.

Depending on relationships I would of done my sister, but I don’t have one. Otherwise I would say anyone you are closest too. Best friends, cousins etc. don’t feel obligated to put people whom wedding you were in, in your bridal party and don’t feel obligated to have a huge wedding party just because you don’t want to hurt peoples feelings.

This can actually be a real tough decision. I know i was having trouble with it and we agreed to just have our very best friends stand by our sides. So we have just a best man and a maid of honor. And it has worked out perfectly.

My maid of honor is my sister (scored big on that one because I do not ever want to have to choose between friends). I then chose my three best friends. I considered asking my other friend because I was in her wedding, but we grew apart since she moved to florida. It was just something that felt right and was talked about with my friends a bunch.My mom wanted me to additionally ask my brother's girlfriend but I thought that doesn't make any sense because she is not part of the family technically.

Thankfully I do not have a lot of close friends to begin with. Never understood the girls who have like 10 bridesmaids because surely the bride is not close to every single one equally; to each their own I guess!

First, it's really important not to pick anyone until you are close to a year away from your wedding because friendships can change! I had a little over a 3 year engagement but didn't ask anyone to be in my bridal party until 2 years into the engagement. I'm glad I waited because I was no longer close with some people I originally thought I'd ask.

I asked my husband's sisters (I don't have any sisters), and friends I'll describe them so you can see various levels of "closeness" 1) Friend since Kindergarten, we were inseparable in middle school and high school. We aren't as close as we were then because our adult lives got in the way but we still celebrate our bdays together every year and get together every once in a while 2) Friend from high school. One of the only people that can help me feel better if I'm upset. 3) Friend from high school, person I can always vent to and she always understands my feelings. Also someone you can be very honest with and she'll take it well 4) Friend from college, another person I always vent to. 5) A newer friend, we were only friends for a year when I asked her to be a bridesmaid. We hang out often and talk almost every day. We're extremely similar. 6) Lastly my MOH, who's the girlfriend of 10 years of my husband's best friend. We celebrate holidays together, we go to each other's family events. She's like a sister to me, so she'll be like an aunt to our children some day.

Overall, I asked people I've always been able to count on, that I feel like I'll be friends with for life.

For me I’m using my daughter’s god mother. As my maid of honor and I have a back up. It’s going to be some people that my be mad at you but you have to remember it’s your day.

We picked our closest friends for our wedding party - which meant we have a mix-gender wedding party. My bridespeople our three gals (my best friend as MOH, another good friend as Bridesmaid, and my little sister as a junior bridesmaid) and two guys (my other best friend and a good guy friend as bridesmen). My FH's grooms people are his best friend from college as Best Man, two gal friends from college (one of whom was my roommate ) as groomsgals, a childhood friend, and his two brothers as groomsmen.