How did you handle the planning of your bachelorette party?????

I think you MOH's will figure it out. It's not really your place to go in on the planning of it. Hopefully they will be considerate and find a date/price that works for everyone.

I don't think it would be out of line to remind them to be considerate of everyone's budget, and to let them know that it's more important you to have as many people there than it is to have a long, extravagant getaway. As far as the time in advance, mine is in January and my wedding is in April. I don't think there's any "normal" time to have it, and we just had it early becasuse it was the date that worked best for everyone.

You shouldn't handle it, beyond a comment or two.

That being said? Memorial day weekend?

No. Too expensive, too much conflict with others' schedules and too expensive.

IMHO, the whole bachelorette party thing has gotten out of control (along with almost everything else wedding related.....Asking a BP to shell out the money requisite for a three day getaway, on top of traveling for the wedding, clothes, shoes etc?

It's a lot.

Thanks you guys.

I don't think there is a too early or too late time. I told my BMs I wanted it in Aug sometime because I knew sept would be busy with finishing up wedding things.

I agree with Celia... They're getting so expensive! Being in a wedding is spendy enough and adding an expensive Bach Party on top of it is a lot. You've expressed concerns about Financials so I think I would just step in and ask them if they've spoke to everyone about the cost and that you'd rather have everyone attend vs. extravagant destination. That being said sounds like you'd have people traveling no matter what due to different locations.

My MOH basically planned everything tentatively and then went to the girls one by one to see what they thought of the pricing/line up. Everyone agreed and is super excited. I know asking "too far" in advanced is discouraged on these forums, but my girls really appreciated having time to budget and save accordingly.

Have your MOHs asked the girls what their budgets are?

The only thing I know about my bachelorette party is the location and date. Mine will be 2 months before the wedding, so I don't think 3 months is too soon at all!

It didn't happen before the wedding. My MOH lives 3,000 miles away, and my local BMs were super-swamped with sick parents, grad school, etc. After the wedding I called a few friends and we went to a comedy club. It was perfect for me.

I also agree with Celia. They are getting too ridiculous and costly. But, whoever is hosting....I'd get with all the girls and plan something that everyone can join in on.

It's really not your place to be involved in the planning of that. But i think the whole bachelorette party thing is so out of hand along with everything else. I personally know some of my bridesmaids are not financially able to go all out and i wouldn't ever put that burden on them and am trying to make everything as inexpensive as possible. I just want to go get massages and have a girls day and maybe dinner/drinks for mine. I planned my wedding purposely far out so that everyone had time to save and we could stretch it out so it wasn't so much money all at once! Good luck i hope it works out

I've been MOH multiple times. We have always started by throwing out ideas, to get an idea of what people could afford and what dates would be best for the most people. Memorial Day weekend can be an expensive travel holiday, BUT its also a holiday weekend so people don't need to take time off of work. That may actually be preferable for your bridal party. Also, having it 3 months before your wedding is totally normal -- actually in my experience, its farther ahead than most bachelorette parties. Your BM may like that too, because it spaces out travel expenses for your wedding. Just remind your MOHs that you want to be respectful of what people can afford, and you want to do whatever the most people can come to.

I actually had to convince my BP that I really didn't want to have my bachelorette *right* before the wedding. They wanted to do it like just a couple days before and I knew that I would be way too stressed and also I tend to bloat really bad when I drink or eat "cheat" foods and I didn't want to have to worry about that only days before fitting into my dress. So I asked that we do it anytime at least 3 weeks out. Past that I didn't care how far out it was. I don't think there's really a rule so whenever is fine. I would personally just mention to them that it's important to you for as many people as possible to be able to participate if they want to so to please try to keep it financially accessible. Perhaps suggest doing a survey monkey type thing to ask all the girls about dates that work well, what budget would be ok, etc. That way no one has to feel bad about being the one to rain of the parade and say they can't afford it.

My MOH is keeping me out of the loop except for the date. I do know that she is working with all of my bms to make sure it's fair for all. It's also a plus that all my bms are friends and work very well with eachother. I agree with Celia that these parties are way too over the top, I think a party bus and a hotel were mentioned for mine so we can have brunch to sober up the next morning, but it's going to be about 30 min most for them to travel with the exception being myself (I live in Chicago) and my cousin who will already be up from FL.

My MOH is planning a vegas trip a month before our wedding. We would have gone in march (spring break) which is 4 months before the wedding, so 3 is pretty understandable. However, spring break flights were way too expensive, so she changed it. I completely understand not everyone can afford it, so my other bridemaids are planning a girls day the Wednesday before the wedding. It might seem like a lot but at least this way i get to celebrate with everyone, because so many of my friends are pregnant.. plus my FSIL is underage.