How common is it for brides to want their bridesmaids to dye their hair?

I wouldn’t consider it. I donate my hair every other year. And I’ve never dyed it before. So that would be a hard no for me. However if the bride were to pay for a wig I wouldn’t be against wearing it ahah.

Yes, that is beyond Bridezilla! That’s just.... wrong. I would never dye my hair in order to be a part of someone’s bridal party (or even be friends with someone who would request such a thing), and would never dream of asking anyone to dye their hair to be in mine. My MOH frequently changes her hair color and style (We are talking hot pink, electric blue, neon green, jet black, etc.) and I have NO idea what color it will be when our wedding date rolls around- it’ll be a fun surprise LOL That same friend though WAS asked to dye her hair for a wedding she was in a couple years ago and we were all shocked. It was seriously overstepping boundaries. The bride got so much hate from so many people about it, that she finally just requested my friend wear a wig to the wedding. My friend was pretty irritated and insulted, but she did end up obliging.

I’ve seen posts here from brides wanting their bridesmaids to change their hair color. Incredibly rude and definitely something I would end a friendship over if I was on the receiving end.

I've never been asked to do this, and if I was I would tell the bride that I'll happily be removed from the bridal party if I have to dye my hair to be part of it. lol.

The only situation that I see this actually being somewhat acceptable is if the the bridal party member dyed their hair an outrageous color days before the wedding. But even then....it's still rude to even consider asking that of a person that's supposed to be your friend.

Besides that example, I would consider it a very 'bridezilla' request lol.

I even ask my adult daughter (one of my 2 bridesmaids who loves to color/dye her hair) to stop coloring her hair until my ceremony. I would never ask anyone to cut or color/dye their hair for me. I think that’s too much.

I was asked to dye my brown hair blonde for a wedding a couple of years ago and I agreed to. The bride was a brunette and 4 out of the 6 bridesmaids were blondes. She wanted the bridesmaids to have the same hair color, and wanted the contrast between the blonde bridesmaids and the brunette bride, so she asked me and the other non-blonde bridesmaid who also was a brunette to dye our hair blonde.

Yes, it is a very "out there" request. But she asked politely months in advance, and actually asked us several times if we were okay with it. She also paid for us to get it properly done at a salon. I used to dye my hair a lot back then, so it wasn't that big of a deal for me. And the photos looked really great, with our red bridesmaid's gowns.

I would never change the color of my hair in order to be a bridesmaid. I also don’t think a true friend would ask you to.

I told my girls that I couldn’t care less if they dyed their hair or not, I just kindly asked them that by the time of the wedding to have more of a natural color (so like no purple, pink or teal). The way I see it is these pictures are forever and should be timeless, so I’ve been on the classier side. No one had any issues with my request and understood.

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Wow. Just, wow. This is so shocking to me that anyone would even think to ask this in the first place! It's your right to have accepted, but I don't think this should be considered reasonable or normal (not matter how "politely" the request was made).

A common expression is "it doesn't hurt to ask!" but I think this is one of those situations where the very asking is offensive. It would certainly change how I viewed a person/friendship if this ever happened to me.

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How did your daughter take that request, especially considering how far away your ceremony is? That's a long time for her to not being to decide what to do with her hair.

I want to gently point out that oftentimes a story will be posted to a forum like Reddit and then that story will be run by a news outlet - there is another wedding forum where a post was run by The Guardian, and there is a story that circulates a lot about this woman who wanted her guests in matching attire that apparently cost thousands of dollars. There is no way to trace whether any of these stories are real, especially the ones that originate in places like Reddit that is famous for people making up stories for "karma farming".

Personally, I have never heard of anyone being asked to dye their hair for a wedding, although there have been posts on here about whether a bride can ask/expect her wedding party to not dye their hair an unnatural color (blue, green, purple etc.) and I don't think that is unreasonable. I would not expect to be in someone's wedding photos if I chose to dye my hair blue.

View Quoted Comment She completely understands. She is a very easy going person since birth. She even asked me to cut her long colored hair short to where her coloration started. I didn’t even expect her to do that, but I always appreciate her being so thoughtful all these years.

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There's literally someone upthread with a personal story about this. It's something that actually happens, whether you believe Reddit or not. Do I think it happens often? No. Has it ever happened to me? No. Does it ever happen? Ask Millicent.

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There is absolutely no reason for you to be so combative with this reply. Zero.

Please point out for me where I said things like this don't happen, because I didn't. All I said was a. Keep in mind that this is the Internet, where people can and do say anything + the same stories get picked up and circulated over and over, and b. Personally, as in my real, offline life, I have never heard of this. That is *all* I said.

View Quoted Comment It sure does. It actually happened to my MOH. I love & accept my family and friends exactly the way they are. I just can’t comprehend placing a higher priority on something so shallow as the aesthetic of photos over the people closest to you.

It's very common on reality tv which is 100% not real with zero basis in reality.


Some women really are that demanding but the vast majority are not.at.all. The ones who do demand it, that's their everyday personality.

I asked my friend if she knew what color hair she would have for the wedding since she dyes her hair all of the time, but other than that I didn't say anything. She said she could always just wear a wig, but I told it wasn't necessary. I was just curious.

I definitely wouldn't ask my bridesmaids to dye their hair nor would I dye my hair as a bridesmaid. That's a bit much

I dyed my hair once for a wedding. I had dyed red hair, and the bridesmaids gown was pale pink. That combination would be have been awful. The bride, one of my best friends, didn't ask me to, it was my decision. I just ran it by her first.

My cousin dyed her hair black for a wedding once, on the bride's request, so this is a thing, perhaps not common, but it does happen. I'm not exactly sure why the bride asked her though, or how agreeable she was.

I honestly don't know if I would or wouldn't agree to dye my hair if a bride asked me to. I guess it depends on how she asked, and what her reasons are, and of course what color she wants me to dye it to.

I wouldn't ask any of my bridesmaids to dye their hair for my wedding. I can get not wanting non-natural colors, or being upset about a bridesmaid changing their hair so close to the wedding, but asking someone to dye their natural hair is odd to me.

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Oh wow. I'm surprised someone would actually ask this. I guess this does happen then. At least you weren't upset with the request. I can't imagine ever agreeing myself to something like this. I would be a bit insulted.