How can I include my future sister in law in the wedding?

Why can't she be a bridesmaid if she's going to be able to be there for the wedding?

She can still be a bridesmaid. You might need to take care of ordering her dress, but is that really a problem? You do know that she doesn't have any duties or responsibilities other than showing up at the wedding in the right dress, don't you?

Oh no, that's a huge bummer! Maybe you can give her some responsibilities as if she were a bridesmaid for the big day, she would still be included just not an actual bridesmaid. It would still make her feel like she is a big part.

Maybe a reader

If she can be there for the wedding why can't she be a bridesmaid?

Have her do a reading.

Yeah I'm confused. She can order her dress online and then still be a bridesmaid. You would just have to tell her what dress and color to buy.

She can still be a bridesmaid. Just order her dress for her and have her send her measurements

I am in a similar boat. I have my bridal party set, and it does not include my FH sister. Not because she won't be around, but because we are not very close, and we don't really click. I like her, and we get along, but I have not spent much time with her and don't feel comfortable including her in our very small bridal party. My mom suggested making her our guest book attendant, but I don't think we will even need a guest book attendant. I don't want to offend her though. Any suggestions for other roles would be appreciated too!

She can still be a bridesmaid. All she needs is her dress and shoes.

Readings are a good way, or depending on what you're planning they can walk the grandmothers or mothers down the aisle.

And do not do what Samantha said. Do not assign anyone duties. A bridesmaids only job is to show up relatively sober in the dress of your choice.

Also personal attendants are a bad idea.

Yeah she can totally be a bridesmaid! She may miss the other events but that's it! I say keep her!

I've talked to my FSIL about ordering a dress online, but she said because of where she will be located she most likely will not have any access to internet, and if she does it will be very limited. Communication will also most likely limited to letters, unless she can get a cheap phone with service overseas. I would order the dress for her, but she plans on losing weight while she's in the PC, so she's scared she won't fit in the dress correctly since her measurements are going to change and alterations take time. There are a few other problems that come up as well, but she and I have talked it over a lot and she just thinks it would be too difficult and stressful.

Thanks for all the advice though! I think she would love to do a reading, so I'm going to ask her if she wants to do that.

She can definitely still be a bridesmaid. She's not required to do anything but show up on your wedding day in the BM dress.

If you still think that's not an option after all these posts, maybe she can act as a witness to sign your certificate? We are asking both FSIL's to be our witnesses because they are not in the bridal party.

It sounds like the future sister-in-law is the one who decided it would be too much for her to be a bridesmaid given the distance. if that's really the case then I think a reading is a really nice idea! she won't have to do much to prepare and unless she's terrified of speaking in public it should be relatively stress-free but still feel inclusive.